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  • No, I would have an abortion

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  • No, I would seek out plan B, but if it didn't work I raise it

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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    if I were a women, I would give the child up for adoption. As a Husband to the women who got raped I would want the baby up for adoption as well.

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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    Yes, I would keep it and raise it. It was not the child's fault that a rape caused his existence, and a rape does not devalue a child which was a product of it.
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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    My opinion will probably elicit emotional responses or piss people off, but I believe that a woman who aborts a child conceived through rape commits a worse atrocity than the rapist that violated her. The fetus is innocent throughout the process and as a human life it should not be killed unless the physical health of the mother is at stake. Two wrongs don't make a right and killing another human being that was conceived through an already terrible act only means that 2 human lives have been violated with one of them having been violated to the ultimate degree (death). Do I understand why a woman that disagrees with my views on human rights would want an abortion? Yes. However, that doesn't mean that I believe their decision is right or that the abortion is ethical.
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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    There's a reason pro-choice people are pro-choice. It's the woman's right to choose to carry an unplanned/unwanted pregnancy to term, even in the event of rape or incest or to choose to terminate the pregnancy.

    No woman should be forced to carry a pregnancy that she does not want any more than she should be forced to terminate a pregnancy that she wishes to carry to term, even if she plans to give the child up for adoption later. The key word with me is always choice.

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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    I'm not going to vote in the poll because I don't know what my mental state would be after such a horrible event, but.... I would hope I would have the child and either keep him/her or give him up for adoption.


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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    The reason I would give the child up for adoption instead... is because I don't think I would be able to be a strong parent in those circumstances, too much pain I do not want to risk passing on to the child.

    Anyone saw The Watchmen ?

    I find it as a good story showing that any child is a gift and children are always innocent. Sure it was just a graphic novel but it was very true. It gave the mother the one thing she truly loves above all things and that was her daughter.

    I actually know a story that was perfectly similar to the Watchman story. My sister was raped at 18 and kept the child. And now she has a very similar view on her... who is now 18 herself!

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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Spiker View Post
    I shouldn't - but I get overly emotional when I consider my experiences and that does come out in what I type - it's an ongoing problem, the only topic that gets me unhinged.

    In all due fairness - I've met a mother who kept and raised her child from a rape and I thought she was awesome for it.

    I do have a serious problem when it comes to choosing to keep a child if it's from *family* - that just crosses some lines that I cannot comprehend at all. Since that's my experience - that taints all of my views heavily, even now. I end up thinking through it this way every time it's discussed: "if I was pregnant with my cousin's child - *then* in order for me to keep it I would have had to literally be insane." . . . that's as close as I can get to being 'reasonable' on it when people ask for objectivity. I just don't have it.

    And so I should probably just lay that out and just walk away from the thread because we all know how it'll go - some certain individuals will say the same things - I'll get my heckles up - infractions like party favors and banning.

    In the past I was told I was 'favoring to punish the child for the wrongs of my cousin' (ok -stressing we're talking about a fictitious child in light of a real situation that occurred) and yep - I agree. . . those are my feelings. I loath his being so much much I think I'd probably try to kill him if I ever met him - and I wouldn't give two flying ****s about his stupid 'kid' if I was pregnant with it. I don't think it's a hatred I'll ever get over - not that I'm trying to, apparently.

    Of course - as also discussed endlessly in this forum - pregnancy is hell for me so I imagine going through that - for my cousin . . . no, just doesn't compute as something I could ever tolerate. It would just rot me from the inside out. I honestly think the disgust and stress would just do me in in some bizarro psychosematic self damning or something.
    everybody has those things that we get unhinged on...it's all good... i'm not trying to pull your chain or anything and you don't need to leave ( less'n you're uncomfortable about talking about it, which is understandable)
    you being insulting to them struck me as odd, because..well.. i dunno.. i guess i assumed there would be a lot more empathy for them in the light of them having similar predicaments ( being sexually assaulted)... it is awesome you don't take that track with your the lady who kept the child ( which kinda tells me you were just venting here, which is also understandable)

    I'm not shooting to piss you off here... just saying that it struck me as odd is all.

    like I said, I can understand the positions of either keeping the kid, or aborting it...and i wouldn't be chiming into say my piece on the decision if faced with a woman who had to make it.

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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    Quote Originally Posted by Josie View Post
    I'm not going to vote in the poll because I don't know what my mental state would be after such a horrible event, but.... I would hope I would have the child and either keep him/her or give him up for adoption.
    well, i know what kind of mental state i would be in if i was raped and got pregnant

    I'd be insane... totally loopy.

    i'd also be trying to figure out how a big old dude like me got pregnant..lol

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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    Having a child under any circumstance is a life-altering, life-long commitment. Even a child given up for adoption will haunt the mother's memory for the rest of her life, and there is the very real possibility of that child tracking her down 20+ years later, having potentially devastating affects on the rest of her family at the time.

    The decision to terminate a pregnancy or bring it to term is is not a decision any woman makes lightly.

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    Re: For women: would you bear a child who was conceived from a rape?

    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Spiker View Post
    I shouldn't - but I get overly emotional when I consider my experiences and that does come out in what I type - it's an ongoing problem, the only topic that gets me unhinged.

    In all due fairness - I've met a mother who kept and raised her child from a rape and I thought she was awesome for it.

    I do have a serious problem when it comes to choosing to keep a child if it's from *family* - that just crosses some lines that I cannot comprehend at all. Since that's my experience - that taints all of my views heavily, even now. I end up thinking through it this way every time it's discussed: "if I was pregnant with my cousin's child - *then* in order for me to keep it I would have had to literally be insane." . . . that's as close as I can get to being 'reasonable' on it when people ask for objectivity. I just don't have it.

    And so I should probably just lay that out and just walk away from the thread because we all know how it'll go - some certain individuals will say the same things - I'll get my heckles up - infractions like party favors and banning.

    In the past I was told I was 'favoring to punish the child for the wrongs of my cousin' (ok -stressing we're talking about a fictitious child in light of a real situation that occurred) and yep - I agree. . . those are my feelings. I loath his being so much much I think I'd probably try to kill him if I ever met him - and I wouldn't give two flying ****s about his stupid 'kid' if I was pregnant with it. I don't think it's a hatred I'll ever get over - not that I'm trying to, apparently.

    Of course - as also discussed endlessly in this forum - pregnancy is hell for me so I imagine going through that - for my cousin . . . no, just doesn't compute as something I could ever tolerate. It would just rot me from the inside out. I honestly think the disgust and stress would just do me in in some bizarro psychosematic self damning or something.
    I can feel the emotions in your messages and although a man I can have empathy. There some things about myself I don't post on the forum. The reality of such situations and the emotions of it vanish all the moral-religious-philosophical discussions, particularly by men.

    What maybe more men can not grasp is the EXTREME lost of personal power a woman can feel after a sexual assault and multiply that by 1000X if she becomes pregnant and by 100,000X if people then start telling her what she MUST do. The woman can furiously and desperately want and need to retake as much control of her life as possible, can come to truly HATE anyone telling her what to do to extremes.

    A woman in such a situation MAY sense the ZEF growing inside her is NOT her baby at all, but some violently invasion creature like the movie ALIEN that is just an ongoing and even more dispicable, intolerable ongoing sexual assault against her since this invasion is still within her genetia. In that context, the woman not only fully refuse to continue to pregnancy and would terminate it anyway possible - even suicide if the only way - but WANT to destroy the ZEF as her own way she can have any power to fight back against the ongoing sexual and violent assault against all trying to strip her self-power with the power of the rapist monster.

    If a woman can not get past such emotions it is truly a totally unreal proposition to even pretend anyone can prevent that abortion. Even if she has the child, she likely would totally hate anyone who tried to pressure or demand she do so. A rape victim desperately wants to regain any power of over life as possible.

    Does any of this sound familiar?

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