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Re: If a man fathers a child through rape, should he have visitation or custody right
No more than he would need a father if the shoe were on the other foot. Children need both parents, but if they've only got one it might as well be either-- and I would say that you're doing a damn fine job for only being one of you. Better than my own parents did together. (If you're familiar with my childhood, that's not intended to be faint praise; it's a genuine compliment.) But the thing is, you are a father because you have done these things... and you have done these things because your son's mother allowed you to, by leaving the child in your care. Mothers have parental rights first because they provide for the child first.
If effectively, I am the only parent is that enough? I cook, clean, bathe, brush his teeth, take him to the doctor, pull lunch duty and other school activities, I will teach him to sew and do laundry, budget money and food shop. I also am involved with his group sports activity and musical endeavors. Hell I just took him to Disney for MY birthday.
Does he need a mother in your opinion?
No more than he would need a father if the shoe were on the other foot. Children need both parents, but if they've only got one it might as well be either-- and I would say that you're doing a damn fine job for only being one of you. Better than my own parents did together. (If you're familiar with my childhood, that's not intended to be faint praise; it's a genuine compliment.) But the thing is, you are a father because you have done these things... and you have done these things because your son's mother allowed you to, by leaving the child in your care. Mothers have parental rights first because they provide for the child first.