Hmm (response to your edit in the previous post of yours) - actually, Marcus - I have four children. My oldest is autistic. My 2nd son has serious behavior problems; theft, attitude and attention seeking. He has been suspended and scrutinized for cheating and stealing for many years. Our daughter suffers from a charming sense of overbloated self worth; she's as cocky as they get and that has caused herself many issues and our youngest is a normal kid - in K last year he found himself in the principles office more than once.
But, yes, they all make good grades - even our autistic child has excelled. In the last two years our 2nd child who has caused more trouble than you can likely imagine has matured and come to accept that there are consequences and dire punishment for all his actions.
All in all; they still thoroughly enjoy school. Being troublesome at times - they still benefit greatly from it.
It is our goal that they grow into balanced and mature adults - no matter how much of a struggle it is between now and then.
They have no choice.
Life is much more than friends being mean on the playground and sweets hiding in the teacher's desk.
See = we're very active and involved parents . . .what's worse: dealing with some mediocre school authority - - or dealing with me right when they get home from school?
yeah - the less trouble they cause at school the better off their nights and weekends are. I'm avid about denying the joys in life - if they want freedom, fun and enjoyment they need to behave properly. They're too young and immature to make these decisions for theirselves . . . I'm Mom - they're my rules and they will be followed.
Follow the rules and life is full of fun, late nights, movies, video games and parents who are proud, happy and content with said children.
Adding: Do I sound like a prison warden? Well good. Because one thing I had to learn in life the hard way is that actions have lifelong consequences. I have children because when I was a teen I defied my parents, authority and common sense and ended up pregnant. My adult life has been full of lessons I should have learned by the age of 14. Actions have consquence - life can suck.
No - life is not full of freedom.
Adults have bills to pay, responsibilities to see to no matter WHAT. My children still must be fed, clothed and cleaned. I cannot just slack on life lest these essentials in *their* lives go undone. This was a lesson that took me several parenting-years to learn. My husband works not because he enjoys his job or really wants to - but because we have a family we must provide for.
Adulthood isn't unbound freedom. Adulthood is the epitomy of self-reliance. Tehre will be no Mommy and Daddy to correct you when you're wrong and guide you when your adult life gets rough and complicated.
You must get yourself up in the morning.
You must get to work on time.
You must take care of your own health and your own teeth.
If you break the rules = you can go to jail. . . far different than heading off to in school suspension.
Life gets harder as you age - you must become more independent and self-reliant . . . there's no time-out and no class bell to keep you on task.