One of you will end up here next!
And I believe the ruling on DOMA was wrong when it comes to state's rights being why the federal government can't define marriage. It is a violation of the 14th, whether it is the state governments doing it or the federal government doing it and ruling that it is a state's right to define marriage could definitely harm the ability to rule to rightfully strike down other states' same sex marriage bans. I really hope the SCOTUS rules that DOMA does in fact violate the 14th, rather than on state's rights.
No one can deny that if the laws said "no homosexual can legally get married", then it would automatically be struck down as unconstitutional, but because the restriction is based on sex/gender, not sexual orientation, then people feel that it isn't a violation. It doesn't really make since. People in jail with no idea when they may be released were granted equal protection to marriage by the SCOTUS.
"A woman is like a teabag, you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water." - Eleanor Roosevelt
Keep your religion out of other people's marriages.
Not I am admittedly not up on all the various lower court rulings, but to the best of my recollection, there have been courts that have upheld bans and ones that have struck them down. Now maybe all the ones that have cited the 14th admendment have been ones to strike the bans down, I don't know. All I am saying is that one interpertation can be, as I have heard from anti-SSM proponents, that when marriage is defined legally as the union between a man and a woman, then that definition can be applied equally to all people. That is a homosexual man is just as equally able to get married to a woman as a straight man is. And I know the argument that a woman of any type is then not able to be married to a woman. But that doesn't fit the legal definition.
I know there is more I want to say here, and I could probably get the point I am trying to make out better in a verbal debate....but well DP is what it is. Hopefully in our back and forth I can coax it out better.