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  • Punch something (or someone)

    3 12.00%
  • Yell A LOT

    9 36.00%
  • Become pissy all day

    6 24.00%
  • Sleep

    1 4.00%
  • Drink it off

    1 4.00%
  • Get over it immediately

    9 36.00%
  • Break down into tears

    1 4.00%
  • Take it all out on the first person in the area

    2 8.00%
  • Take a walk

    8 32.00%
  • Go to your happy place

    5 20.00%
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Thread: How Do You React To Anger?

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    It really depends on what you're talking about. If someone cuts me off at a light, I blow it off quickly, it wasn't personal, who cares? If someone does something intentionally to make me angry, that's a different story. I don't deal in revenge, usually I just ignore it unless they're a real douche, at which point, depending on relative positions, I can make their lives suck, but usually I won't.

    I used to get really upset. Now, what difference does it make?
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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    i don't often get angry these days. when i do, i generally internalize it and try to work it off later. it biodegrades eventually given enough time.

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheLastIndependent View Post
    Im asking this out of curiosity. When I get mad, I generally mutter something under my breath and get over it. But sometimes, I become overwhelmed with anger. At that point I have to punch something, human or not. I currently have a broken bone, or at least that's what it feels like, in my hand from punching a concrete wall. But how do you react?

    I spent many years... decades actually... struggling with a hot temper and a tendency to violence.

    My earliest success in controlling my temper and desire to hurt those who offended me was in martial arts training. I had an outlet for my aggressions, as well as training that focused on self-control. I learned breathing and meditation techniques to keep my emotions in check.

    Then there was the years I spent as a cop, when I spent a lot of time interacting with scummy people and having to maintain my professionalism regardless of what verbal abuse I was given or how stressful the situation was.

    The problem with both was that the anger was still there, and the desire to do violence to those who caused it was still strong, just kept on a leash.

    It is only in relatively recent years that I've really made a fundamental change in how I handle anger, and the secret is that I don't get angry very often anymore and when I do I am able to actually let it go and truly calm down much more rapidly. This came about through a lifetime's experiences in what might be called "the human condition", and a newfound compassion and sympathy for my fellow man.

    After all, we all do things that anger others sometimes. Often we do so in ignorance or by accident; sometimes we do so out of thoughtlessness or distraction. Sometimes we have no choice, such as if you're a manager and you are obligated to have words with a subordinate over something they did. Sometimes we're angry or upset and we "share the heat" with whoever annoys us, whether they did so on purpose or not. We're all human, and I'm just as fallible as anyone. The guy who pisses you off so bad you want to smash his face may not be an a-hole all the time.... maybe he's just having a bad day, maybe there was some misunderstanding, maybe he's stressed out and he'll regret his behavior later.


    Even if this is not so, there's nothing to be gained really by breaking his nose just for simple asshattery, and much to lose. Nor is there anything to gain by letting him ruin your day with long-term anger... in fact some a-holes love nothing more than to think they've ruined your day, that you will be upset all day over their behavior.... so why let them win?

    Life is so much better when you just let things go and don't hold a grudge. When you let anger rule you, you miss out many opportunities to take joy in the moment, to fully appreciate some good thing that you have right in front of you, because you're still mentally obsessing over some slight that happened hours ago, or yesterday, or last week.

    I've been a lot happier and more content (not to mention better company) when I adopted this point of view.

    Now when it is something big, some real and serious harm, that is a much more difficult matter... but if you recognize that getting angry does not benefit you in any way, that it does not help you in your quest to seek suitable redress for the harm done to you, that indeed it serves little benefit even in self-defense, it is easier to let it go and decide what to do (if anything) about the matter using logic and reason.

    I remain human of course and from time to time I still have trouble setting my anger aside.... but I'm much better at it than I ever was before.

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    Generally I do a lot of yelling and swearing when I'm pissed off. It passes quickly though.
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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    I usually go take a crap, then it'll have passed. I'm pretty even tempered nowadays and just take these things as they come, rather than plan things in advance and have them build up in my mind, only to be disappointed later. I try to keep expectations low, because we're going to come up short or be let down at some point. It wasn't always that way. I used to just find motivation out of spite of others, who i believed wanted me to fail. It worked at the time, but it's too stressful to cope like that in the long run.

    If you're so consumed by rage that you're punching a concrete wall, maybe consider anger management. Sleeping or taking a walk would be practical and not harmful to others, except you admit to being out of control. How are you gonna sleep or decide to do anything at a time like that?

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheLastIndependent View Post
    Im asking this out of curiosity. When I get mad, I generally mutter something under my breath and get over it. But sometimes, I become overwhelmed with anger. At that point I have to punch something, human or not. I currently have a broken bone, or at least that's what it feels like, in my hand from punching a concrete wall. But how do you react?
    I can be extremely tolerant . . . for a long time. Then when I crack - I go completely off. It's been a serious problems - I've hurt others, nearly killed myself, and it's cost money.

    So I try hard - really hard - not to lose it completely. The bes thing for me is to honestly not talk about the issue for a while - not until I calm down. That really is counterintuitive. They always say 'talk it out' - but talk about ti *while* I'm emotionally strung up will only string me up tighter. I need to simmer down - let my emotions disipate - and then I can discuss calmly.
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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    I used to get in fights when I got angry. But my doctor convinced me I didn't have much of a future in that line of work. Haha.

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheLastIndependent View Post
    Im asking this out of curiosity. When I get mad, I generally mutter something under my breath and get over it. But sometimes, I become overwhelmed with anger. At that point I have to punch something, human or not. I currently have a broken bone, or at least that's what it feels like, in my hand from punching a concrete wall. But how do you react?
    I very rarely get angry. When I was young, I would just keep it all stuffed inside, then eventually the tears started flowing, but over my lifetime, I've learned that anger is really a pretty useless endeavor, and things that used to irritate me don't bother me anymore.
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