View Poll Results: How do you react to anger?

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  • Punch something (or someone)

    3 12.00%
  • Yell A LOT

    9 36.00%
  • Become pissy all day

    6 24.00%
  • Sleep

    1 4.00%
  • Drink it off

    1 4.00%
  • Get over it immediately

    9 36.00%
  • Break down into tears

    1 4.00%
  • Take it all out on the first person in the area

    2 8.00%
  • Take a walk

    8 32.00%
  • Go to your happy place

    5 20.00%
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Thread: How Do You React To Anger?

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    Become pissy all day(s), weeks?

    the moment is broken, it's all bad from then on .... until it passes away

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    When i get angry I take some time to myself to see what is going on. I may be hungry, angry, tired or on edge. I look to the facts and what the perceived offense may be. If I feel I have a bone fide grievance I speak directly to the person and try to resolve the situation. If it is a close relationship I look to forgive and move on.


    If someone comes to me as an angry person, I listen to the person and evaluate the situation. Depending upon the facts, the person and the relationship I will give it the attention that it deserves. I do not automatically try to "fix" whatever is bothering the individual. Sometimes when someone is angry they simply want to "let off some stem", need someone to listen and do not want solutions. Indeed, to try and "fix" an already tempestuous situation could just upset the person even more. Sometimes the anger is misdirected and I just happen to be the closest person, both emotionally and logistically, and I take a moment to truly listen to what is going on.

    Should the anger be directly related to something I have done I apologize and make amends to the person by looking at what the issues and facts were to cause such anger. Nobody is perfect least of all me...
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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    Quote Originally Posted by Connery View Post
    I listen to the person and evaluate the situation. Depending upon the facts, the person and the relationship I will give it the attention that it deserves. I do not automatically try to "fix" whatever is bothering the individual. Sometimes when someone is angry they simply want to "let off some stem", need someone to listen and do not want solutions. Indeed, to try and "fix" an already tempestuous situation could just upset the person even more. Sometimes the anger is misdirected and I just happen to be the closest person, both emotionally and logistically, and I take a moment to truly listen to what is going on.

    Should the anger be directly related to something I have done I apologize and make amends to the person by looking at what the issues and facts were to cause such anger. Nobody is perfect least of all me...
    Generally, I will simply walk away, and avoid escalation. This however, is very situational.

    With my wife, I know that by walking away from her, I am insulting her opinion and so must simply take it.

    With aggressive males there is only a small window to walk away, and if missed there is often violence.

    With a friend or stranger, I will simply walk and decide if they are worth my continued time and effort.

    With Children it is much the same, though obvious family dynamics come into play.


    As a general rule, I prefer avoiding unpleasant drama and violence.

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    Quote Originally Posted by TheLastIndependent View Post
    Im asking this out of curiosity. When I get mad, I generally mutter something under my breath and get over it. But sometimes, I become overwhelmed with anger. At that point I have to punch something, human or not. I currently have a broken bone, or at least that's what it feels like, in my hand from punching a concrete wall. But how do you react?
    As a mathematician, I am always thinking about how to minimize negative effects and maximize positive effects before taking any action. In this case, I look at it as the perfect time to go hit the weight room. Anger and lifting weights are complementary to one another. If you're angry then you will feel like pushing yourself harder. In the other direction, it will often help cool down your temper as you tire yourself out.

    My advice reminds me of the movie Dodgeball:

    "You've got to get angry! You've got to get mean! That's the only way you can play!"
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    "It is not enough to have a good mind. The main thing is to use it well."
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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    I yell, scream, throw ****, break stuff, and then tend to just go off and fume for a while. It will generally affect me for the rest of the day, or at least several hours before I fully get over it. At that point it's generally best to just leave me alone because while I go out of my way to avoid taking my frustration out on people, once you stick your nose into my problem, you're liable to pull back a stump at the neck.

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    As some one once said, Don't get mad, get even. That is usually what i do if i get angry about something. And always remember, revenge is a dish best served cold.

    In most cases, i am not the one that gets angry, I'm usually the carrier.

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    I have anger problems and went to anger management about it so it really depends. Since getting older and my daughter being born if I get really angry it involves me going into a room. But I've done everything on that list at least twice.
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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    I breathe in, steeple my fingers (if I can), readjust to the new reality, and let it wash over and out of me. Then I'm calm, and I get over it. If it's bad enough I am unable to do this, I talk it out to myself repetitively under my breath like a mantra until I'm a bit emotionally wrung out and over it.


    I used to deal with pretty severe anger issues - It wasn't terribly pretty. My wife and children deserve better than a Father and Husband who responds that way. To beat that, I've developed a pretty good tolerance .

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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    I've threatened a guy with a sharp object pressed to his face while holding his neck with my hand. That landed me in jail for a day until I finally got bailed out. In this case, as bad as this sounds thank God thats the first time I ever got in trouble and he was a guy that got in trouble numerous times.
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    Re: How Do You React To Anger?

    As I was growing up, I quickly learned that expressed anger would leave me with physical and emotional scars. Old habits die hard, so although I rarely get truly, truly angry, when I do I automatically stop talking and go someplace where I can be by myself until I stop shaking with rage. When I'm angry or extremely sad, I get very quiet.

    Only once was I ever provoked to the point that, when I was prevented from leaving I actually threw a coffee mug at someone. He promptly beat the crap out of me, which reinforced that suppressing rage, no matter how much effort it took, was the better course of action.

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