When someone is insecure in their their subjective view, the first thing that they do is pretend that it's not "merely" their subjective view by making up a fantasy about it being the "objective TRUTH" about reality, i.e. how things SHOULD be rather than "just" being how they WANT it to be.
Such nonsense absolutely screams insecurity.
A person who has that view can blame their failures on fate or bad luck or whatever they choose to blame their failures on. They wallow in the victim mentality when reality doesn't match up with their fantasy of how reality "should be". Thus, they end up clinging to the image thy seek to present rather than accomplishing anything of actual worth.
Confident people, however, can accept their failures as their own, treat those failures like learning experiences, grow from them, and then actually make some progress towards accomplishing their goals in life.
Confident, secure people don't fear admitting that their views are subjectively derived because they are confident and secure. They don't consider the subjective nature of their views to be a detriment to those views. In fact, they see that as a benefit. Because they are confident in themselves. They are secure.
Only someone who is insecure in themselves would think that they'd need to invent an outside source for their perspective. They can only reach that kind of conclusion if the foundational premise that they are using is that they (as an individual) are not a good enough source for such a perspective to be sound. they believe that in order for such a perspective to have worth, it cannot come from them and them alone because they do not perceive themselves as worthy enough to present anything of value.
And this perspective is often totally unconscious. It's so ingrained that they aren't even aware of it. It becomes the untested and unquestioned assumption inherent to all of their perspectives on life and society.
If you really want to test someone's confidence, ask them how they think the society SHOULD be. Then, after they give their description of their Utopian society say "Of course, that's just your opinion of how things should be."
The insecure person will say "No, that's just how it SHOULD be" and the secure person will say "Of course it's my opinion. And it's a damned sight better than any other opinion I've encountered on the matter."
Tucker Case - Tard magnet.
In the end you are only expressing your opinion since you have no power to enforce your ideas on other people.
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