So in a sense, we should punish criminals because they had the bad luck of being born with a low IQ and the even more misfortune of being born into an abusive home? If you would like to structure our country into a system of punishment to those who have already lived a punished life, I don't know what else I can say to you to convince you that this would be morally screwed. You would be maximizing the bad life while diminishing the good life.
Edit: Writing a blog on this subject if anyone is interested.
Nothing I wrote even hints that a person should be "punished because they had the bad luck of being born with a low IQ and the even more misfortune of being born into an abusive home." I wrote that a person is responsible for his or her own actions. If there is judgment - as YOU put it - is should be based upon ACTIONS, not a person's subconscious.
Mostly, I'm saying you don't have a clue in reality what you are talking about. People can find books including by psychologists that say anything including exact opposites. There are centuries of books by philsophers and "psychologists" explaining the moral justifications of using physical torture as punishment, claiming that torture is more just and rational as punishment for all persons involved including the offender rather than prison. A person can pick whatever books they want. They prove nothing at all.
In my youth I saw and experienced more "abuse" than anyone would believe if I wrote 1/1ooth of it and it had been going on for nearly a century. Of those who survived it - and many did not - the result was 1 of 3 kinds of people "psychologically":
1. Defeated, broken people. They have no will power whatsoever, are totally submissive to everyone and everything, and so incapable of making a decision just picking what they want off a restaurant menu is an impossible task.
2. Violent. When becoming adult (not necessarily 18) it is their turn to have the power of violence. Those are exorbitantly dangerous men and should be destroyed. Calculating in all ways, they would easily come to appear to be "cured," but the are time bombs with hair triggers. They willl do what was done to them and worse. They can not be cured the the horror, fear, pain and destruction of other people they will do can never be portrayed in any words and doing so is pleasurable to them in an entertainment and ego-stoking sense. No one who has not seen what such men will do can not possibly wrap their head around that reality.
3. Resistant. When becoming adult, they will absolutely oppose such violence of men and will do so proactively and with a determination to be more "powerful" than such evil men. It can become the priority of their life. Violent men are "the enemy." Those are men you should never prick around because they won't take intimidation again, will never be submissive again, will not tolerate anyone poising potential harm to them (or their own people of their life) and they are the worst person to do violence towards children (and possibly women) around. That is who I am.
I am about the worst person for anyone to violently assault a child in front of and, circumstantially, to be violent against women - though there are exceptions where I would not intervene. I was detained, questioned and arrested quite a few times in this regards, but no convictions.
Violence between men is a different matter. I may or may not "rescue" another man under violent assault. I would if he is one of "mine" or if he is someone I felt would come to my aid. Knowing your words, I would not come to your aid. If you were being assaulted in front of me and knowing your beliefs, I would be untroubled sipping on a bourbon watching someone beat you to death. Not as some retaliation and I don't mean this as a flame. Nor it is a slogan. I've watched men beaten down that I could have easily stopped. Violence between men is violence between men. However it ends is how it ends.
Thus as a theoretical, I would have come to the aid of Zimmerman because what he was doing was giving his time, energy and putting himself at risk to look out for his neighbors. I would not have come to the aid of Martin because as I understand facts I believe he violently attacked Zimmerman with no necessity to do so. Having done so, I am untroubled that Zimmerman shot and killed him. That was a conflict between two men, one died, at that point one was going to. If one of the two HAD to die, it is the one of the two I would prefer it be. It is known Zimmerman comes to people's aid. He shoved a cop off his buddy. Another time he reported a cop harassing a homeless person. And - no benefit to himself - he was watching out for the neighborhood. I don't read Martin ever having done anything good for anyone in his life and by the school he was a juvenile delinquent punk. Thus, Zimmerman worthy of my efforts on his behalf and Martin not.
Why I would not come to your aid?
1.) I know you are a person who would only rely on others and in ways no one could rely upon you and 2.) your empathy is towards the person assaulting you, not towards yourself as the victim if this was another man.
What you write of is just book-words and a person can find any books of any words they want. Those are not reality. Those are people selling books for their profit.
ALL empathy you have written, 100%, is ONLY towards people who maliciously and cruelly do violence towards others. THOSE are you you try to defend. I have exactly no sympathy for such men myself. So we are truly opposition. You WANT to defend the rapists. I will and have defended the victim or would-be victim. It is that simple a distinction between us.