You don't think that policies that restrict gay people's ability to help their partners and children does not "keep (them) in subservience and hardship" or "cause (them) to feel distressed, anxious, or uncomfortable"?oppressed
1.Keep (someone) in subservience and hardship, esp. by the unjust exercise of authority.
2.Cause (someone) to feel distressed, anxious, or uncomfortable: "he was oppressed by worry".
And your lack of personal experience with employment or housing discrimination towards gay people is not exactly a convincing argument.