I'm male and find that acceptable.
I'm male and find that unacceptable.
I'm female and find that acceptable.
I'm female and find that unacceptable.
"A nation can survive its fools, and even the ambitious. But it cannot survive treason from within. An enemy at the gates is less formidable, for he is known and carries his banner openly. But the traitor moves amongst those within the gate freely, his sly whispers rustling through all the alleys, heard in the very halls of government itself. For the traitor appears not a traitor; he speaks in accents familiar to his victims, and he wears their face and their arguments, he appeals to the baseness that lies deep in the hearts of all men. He rots the soul of a nation, he works secretly and unknown in the night to undermine the pillars of the city, he infects the body politic so that it can no longer resist. A murder is less to fear"
Cicero Marcus Tullius
Yes. If it is important to you, then by all means use it. I think most will find they are happier with someone that mesh with, but if you are someone that absolutely has to have a certain life style, then go for it.
You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
I get it now. I might be pissed that he didn't tell me first, because, actually, I think it might be illegal for an individual to check someone's credit without their knowledge. But I'd get over it as it would tell me he's a responsible guy who trusts yet verifies.
Thank you, Quazi!
The fact of the matter is, for many women their financial future still depends to a large degree on their husband.
I didn't say all; there are many exceptions. But for a lot of women, possibly even the majority, the husband is likely to be the biggest earner and whether she and her children live in poverty or comfort will depend on him.
Reason? Simply that many women put children ahead of career. That's fine: somebody needs to put the children first, by golly (one or the other, I don't care, but it is most often the woman). Many women don't work when their children are small (<5) and many more work only part-time when their children are in school. Even those who work full time often suffer frequent absences from work due to the needs of the children, tend to avoid overtime and business travel and those other extras that have a lot to do with earnings and promotions.
Thus, it is still more commonplace for the man to be the primary financial provider. Therefore, it makes perfect sense for most women to evaluate a mate in part on his ability to provide.
Hopefully that won't be the ONLY thing she's looking at... but having it be one consideration is certainly no worse than criteria we men often filter for (her boobs are too small, she's overweight, she isn't very pretty, etc).
Fiddling While Rome Burns
Carthago Delenda Est
"I used to roll the dice; see the fear in my enemies' eyes... listen as the crowd would sing, 'now the old king is dead, Long Live the King.'.."
Conservatives believe the government is incompetent, and seek to elect people who will prove it
Ignorance is Bliss Bliss is the same as happiness US Christian conservatives are the happiest in the US according to studies Do you see a connection?
But that's just me. Personally when I'm dating someone I don't really care about her wealth or income, but I would care if she wasn't responsible with money...at least if I was going to marry her.
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Are you coming to bed?
I can't. This is important.
Someone is WRONG on the internet! -XKCD
I would never be with someone just because of their wealth, or dump someone just because of their lack of money.
If there's a god, damn it she won't mind.
If there's a god, baby she won't mind.