see, Jyran, I know parents like this. they are the people I go to for reading suggestions or advice. because they have actually been in the arena, and knows what actually works.
And so I think I would rather raise sons that will turn out as described above than spoiled savages who are convinced that authority cannot or will not harm them. My wife's biological mother raised two sons like that. One is in and out of juvie, and the other got out of jail last year. Because they thought they could do whatever they pleased, and authority had no hold over them.
Strangely, the younger one I think still feels that way. I guess the lessons we learn as children really are that defining - he thinks it's somehow abusive or unfair when the state punishes him for criminality. The older one, I think, is starting to get it. he wants to enlist, but with the military looking to severely cut personnel, i'm not sure he'll be able to get a waiver. which is a pity, the Marines would do great things for him.