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And therein lies the problem. Most people who are pro-choice favor CHOICE. Once you turn abortion into an obligation or a duty or a responsibility, then it's no longer truly a choice even if another option exists.
Where is the duty or obligation? I see none so I see no problem
And therein lies another problem. That's the entirely wrong way to frame a discussion about child support, which SHOULD be about the child.
But it isn’t about the child… it is about the woman’s choice.
Choice = abortion or child
Abortion = No child
No child = no child support
When a baby is conceived, the parents are both legally responsible for the child from that point forward. The man cannot sign a piece of paper disavowing responsibility and sticking the woman with the full cost for raising the child, any more than the woman can do that to the man. Neither has any special rights in that regard; they are BOTH responsible for financially supporting that child until age 18, except under unusual circumstances (e.g. both parents agree to put the child up for adoption).
If she has an abortion… no child
If she does not want to support the child on her own… have an abortion.
What is so hard to grasp?
Now, if something happens so that it never reaches age 18 (e.g. it's aborted, or it dies in childhood), then of course there isn't going to be any child support because there is no child to support. This has nothing to do with whose "fault" it was that the child never reached age 18; the obligation is simply removed because the reason for it no longer exists.
Nothing about my argument assigns any “fault”.
Both parents have equal rights to unilaterally disown their child and stick the other parent with the full cost of raising it (i.e. they can't do it). And both parents have equal rights to abort any children they happen to be pregnant with (i.e. they can).
Both parents have equal rights to abort? Ummm… what?
That's pretty sexist. If the dude can't support the child then he should have worn a rubber and saved everybody time and money.
Maybe he did wear a rubber…
Maybe it failed…
Maybe she pricked a hole in it…
Maybe they were in a relationship and he trusted her and she lied about her birth control…
There are any number of ways that this can happen. I know that the most fun method is to discredit the man. That damn dead beat! Those poor women! Look dude, you have fallen into the trap. Get out fast…