This again, Bodhi? This has become a recurring theme for you. Something you'd like to share with us? :mrgreen:
Anyway, I'll play. Again. But this is the last time!
In my view, if an unmarried woman gets pregant, and she plans to carry the child to term, she is ethically bound to inform the father of her choice. If he does not want to be a part of that child's life, she should have him sign a legally-binding waiver of all parental rights and agreeing to stay out of the child's life, and she agrees not to put his name on the birth certificate or reveal that he is the child's parent. Once that is done, she has the option of either giving the child up for adoption ... the father now has no say in this... or raising the child herself... again, the father has no say in this.
If she chooses to raise the child herself, she has the responsibility of supporting that child on her own. If she marries down the road, her husband may legally adopt the child. The biological father goes on about his life unfettered. The only way the biological father would ever see the inside of a courtroom and be forced to pay child support is if one of the two violates their legal agreement. Then all bets are off.
Obviously, this was not done in whatever occurred to make you feel so adament and victimized, and I'm truly sorry. However, sexual intercourse comes with all kinds of potential price tags attached, as has been pointed out repeatedly in the Abortion forum, so when having sex with an individual one does not wish to have tied to the rest of one's life, it might be a better option to pass... or hire a pro. Just sayin'.