You can have the patriarchal paradigm of men providing for, making decisions for, and being responsible for the helpless woman or you can do away with that paradigm and embrace the independence and liberty of the woman alone. You can't have both. Either we are partners in this decision or we are not. With the unilateral power of determination and decision-making comes unilateral responsibility for that decision. If my hand is kept from the decision of my child's fate and my status as a parent, then your hand is stayed when you seek to take my wallet from my pocket, and my earned income from it, to fund your decision.