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My relationship

My Relationship is a ....

  • 10 - Perfection

    Votes: 2 9.5%
  • 9 - Awesomely Excellent

    Votes: 5 23.8%
  • 8 - Really good

    Votes: 5 23.8%
  • 7 - No complaints

    Votes: 1 4.8%
  • 6 - Some complains

    Votes: 3 14.3%
  • 5 - Meh. Boring, but we're a good team

    Votes: 1 4.8%
  • 4 - I'm just here for the cookies

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • 3 - I checked out years ago

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • 2 - We fight, and I mean ALL the damn time

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • 1 - My relationship is dead/broken. We just haven't buried the bodies.

    Votes: 4 19.0%

  • Total voters
    21

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I hear from at least a few people that they're happy with their dearly beloved. I know some are married, but that seems to be as far as it goes. How's yours, with 10 being "sheer perfection" and 1 being purely miserable.
 
8 1/2.
Love bein around here and with her just sometimes to much talk all day..
 
I apologize to all the singletons such as myself. Poll limit is 10, and so no space for us. If you read this post, and you're single, go ahead and manual vote if you are okay with that, or would you really rather be in a relationship?
 
i'm single, but honestly a relationship is the last thing i need right now. I give my single life a 6. It could be a 10 if I grew up a bit and started becoming an adult.
 
I checked off the truth of things (dead, we just haven't buried the bodies) but I do enjoy being single. I live as though married (or maybe just old, lol!), and my favorite pasttimes are being here, and reading (playing WoW used to far and away be my favorite time sink. Now it's a drudgery to go in game. :(
 
i'm single, but honestly a relationship is the last thing i need right now. I give my single life a 6. It could be a 10 if I grew up a bit and started becoming an adult.

My assumption is that you'll grow up when you need to.
 
My palm and I get along quite well.
 
I'm a singleton. My satisfaction with that is generally high, but it swings a bit. Let's face it: sometimes the really hard stuff is easier when you have an SO around. And I've had some really hard stuff lately.

But, over-all, I'm happy being single and I really think I need to be single right now. My love life is probably the deadest it's ever been, and in a way, that's nice. If anything I wish it was even dead-er (I have one of those lurking bad timing situations that's in the periphery of my life and will probably remain there for another year or two).

I wish I was the kind of person that had a simple love life, but it seems like that's never really been the gig for me. Now is the simplest it's been.
 
Let's face it: sometimes the really hard stuff is easier when you have an SO around. And I've had some really hard stuff lately.

If I think on it, I go from misting up to flat-out tears. So - I don't think on it. I live that book title "I do not want what I have not got."

Sometimes, it still hurts. Sometimes. Then I just remind myself how depressed I was, there at the end. So now? The only thing I really, REALLY miss is my daily hug(s).

Maybe, baby. Someday.
 
I've been single for near a decade and love it. I would give the quiet life an 8+. I will admit I have a rare desire for companionship but when I remember all the pains that come along with a relationship I quickly get past that nonsense.
 
Life and relationships can't easily be summed up with a digit or letter grade.

Do I love my wife, absolutely.
Does she make me mad sometimes and do I make her mad too, duh.

Doesn't that just mean the passion is still there? It's apathy that kills relationships. JMNSHO.
 
When you can't even be bothered to fight anymore, that's trouble...

In my experience, anyway...

Peace

EDIT: That was supposed to be a reply to Ms. Boop...
 
When you can't even be bothered to fight anymore, that's trouble...

In my experience, anyway...

Peace

EDIT: That was supposed to be a reply to Ms. Boop...

Yup, caught it. :)

Ever see "The War of the Roses"? OMG. Hysterical.
 
Just gotta stay focused on school, and life, and healthy living for now. Self-actualization is the key word for me.

The step after that is even better... self-realization. Get yourself all actualized (and make sure the lower foundations are solid, especially esteem) and you're really in for somehing.



Metamotivation is a term coined by Abraham Maslow to describe the motivation of people who are self actualized and striving beyond the scope of their basic needs to reach their full potential. Maslow suggested that man is initially motivated by a series of basic needs[1], called the hierarchy of needs. Maslow states, “Self-actualizing people are gratified in all their basic needs (of belongingness, affection, respect, and self-esteem)”[2]. Once a person has successfully navigated the hierarchy of needs thus satisfying all their basic needs, Maslow proposed they then travel “a path called growth motivation”[3].

Maslow believed we must make a distinction between the motives of those who operate at or below the level of self-actualization (ones still striving for their basic needs, or ones who have met their basic needs but still live without purpose), and those who are self actualized who are also with significant purpose, as their motivations differ significantly[4]. Deficiency needs (D-needs) motivate people to satisfy physiological needs such as hunger, sex, love, whereas being needs (B-needs) propel a person beyond self-actualization and drive them to fulfill their inherent ultimate potential[5].

Metamotivation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia


Happiness and self-realization

The concept of self-realization states that it is the ultimate goal of a human being to attain permanent happiness and complete independence and freedom from all worldly bondage, and that true happiness is then the result of self-realization.

The concept defines true happiness as the manifested Self. It only seems like a result because it is not felt or known permanently before the ego is removed. As explained by Ramana Maharshi,"Happiness is inherent in man and is not due to external causes. One must realize himself in order to experience his unalloyed happiness. All spiritual scriptures are meant to make man retrace his steps to his original source." [8]

Awareness in self-realization

As taught by Ramana Maharshi, awareness plays a key role in achieving self realization; with awareness, self-realization should be extremely easy to achieve. [9]
Self-realization - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia


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I give my relationship a 7. It loses 1 point because she doesn't have a graduate degree yet (she's working towards it). It loses one point because she is not over 35 (she's 26). It loses one point because I'm generally a dick. In theory, it could become a 9.
 
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I've been single for near a decade and love it. I would give the quiet life an 8+. I will admit I have a rare desire for companionship but when I remember all the pains that come along with a relationship I quickly get past that nonsense.

Love sucks
Love rocks
You cant just get one world with love you get both of them and sometimes it sucks and sometimes it rocks. I love the rockin part tho not gonna lie ;)
 
You and Ms Handy.

Don't be talking down to Ms Handy! She does not require expensive cloths or dinners. She does not need to snuggle after sex and she never talks back. Yet she is always there when we need her.
 
Classic... DeVito is a black comedy genius, IMO... 'Death to Smoochy' too, though not a love story...

Smoochy Howl, kids... :lol:

Peace

EDIT: ok, I could have sworn I hit the 'reply' button on that one...
EDIT 2: I've got it now, I think... lol, I'm an internet moron...
 
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Sisters are doin it for themselves


for now, just the way i like it. happily single.
 
I'm married and I'd give my marriage about an 8. We love each other, and we're very happy together. We have some problems though, but who doesn't? Honestly, I don't understand how anyone could say their relationship is perfect. Either they're lying, or they're in such a new relationship that it's still in the honeymoon stage.
 
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