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  • 10 - Perfection

    2 9.09%
  • 9 - Awesomely Excellent

    6 27.27%
  • 8 - Really good

    5 22.73%
  • 7 - No complaints

    1 4.55%
  • 6 - Some complains

    3 13.64%
  • 5 - Meh. Boring, but we're a good team

    1 4.55%
  • 4 - I'm just here for the cookies

    0 0%
  • 3 - I checked out years ago

    0 0%
  • 2 - We fight, and I mean ALL the damn time

    0 0%
  • 1 - My relationship is dead/broken. We just haven't buried the bodies.

    4 18.18%
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Thread: My relationship

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    Re: My relationship

    I'm a singleton. My satisfaction with that is generally high, but it swings a bit. Let's face it: sometimes the really hard stuff is easier when you have an SO around. And I've had some really hard stuff lately.

    But, over-all, I'm happy being single and I really think I need to be single right now. My love life is probably the deadest it's ever been, and in a way, that's nice. If anything I wish it was even dead-er (I have one of those lurking bad timing situations that's in the periphery of my life and will probably remain there for another year or two).

    I wish I was the kind of person that had a simple love life, but it seems like that's never really been the gig for me. Now is the simplest it's been.

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    Re: My relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by MistressNomad View Post
    Let's face it: sometimes the really hard stuff is easier when you have an SO around. And I've had some really hard stuff lately.
    If I think on it, I go from misting up to flat-out tears. So - I don't think on it. I live that book title "I do not want what I have not got."

    Sometimes, it still hurts. Sometimes. Then I just remind myself how depressed I was, there at the end. So now? The only thing I really, REALLY miss is my daily hug(s).

    Maybe, baby. Someday.

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    Re: My relationship

    Life and relationships can't easily be summed up with a digit or letter grade.

    Do I love my wife, absolutely.
    Does she make me mad sometimes and do I make her mad too, duh.
    I was discovering that life just simply isn't fair and bask in the unsung glory of knowing that each obstacle overcome along the way only adds to the satisfaction in the end. Nothing great, after all, was ever accomplished by anyone sulking in his or her misery.
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    Re: My relationship

    I've been single for near a decade and love it. I would give the quiet life an 8+. I will admit I have a rare desire for companionship but when I remember all the pains that come along with a relationship I quickly get past that nonsense.

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    Re: My relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by Harry Guerrilla View Post
    Life and relationships can't easily be summed up with a digit or letter grade.

    Do I love my wife, absolutely.
    Does she make me mad sometimes and do I make her mad too, duh.
    Doesn't that just mean the passion is still there? It's apathy that kills relationships. JMNSHO.

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    Re: My relationship

    When you can't even be bothered to fight anymore, that's trouble...

    In my experience, anyway...

    Peace

    EDIT: That was supposed to be a reply to Ms. Boop...
    My eyes are always open, habitat gropin'...

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    Re: My relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    Doesn't that just mean the passion is still there? It's apathy that kills relationships. JMNSHO.
    If you love the person, I mean really love them, the passion is there from one end.
    I was discovering that life just simply isn't fair and bask in the unsung glory of knowing that each obstacle overcome along the way only adds to the satisfaction in the end. Nothing great, after all, was ever accomplished by anyone sulking in his or her misery.
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    Re: My relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by Pull My Finger View Post
    When you can't even be bothered to fight anymore, that's trouble...

    In my experience, anyway...

    Peace

    EDIT: That was supposed to be a reply to Ms. Boop...
    Yup, caught it.

    Ever see "The War of the Roses"? OMG. Hysterical.

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    Re: My relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by StillBallin75 View Post
    Just gotta stay focused on school, and life, and healthy living for now. Self-actualization is the key word for me.
    The step after that is even better... self-realization. Get yourself all actualized (and make sure the lower foundations are solid, especially esteem) and you're really in for somehing.



    Metamotivation is a term coined by Abraham Maslow to describe the motivation of people who are self actualized and striving beyond the scope of their basic needs to reach their full potential. Maslow suggested that man is initially motivated by a series of basic needs[1], called the hierarchy of needs. Maslow states, “Self-actualizing people are gratified in all their basic needs (of belongingness, affection, respect, and self-esteem)”[2]. Once a person has successfully navigated the hierarchy of needs thus satisfying all their basic needs, Maslow proposed they then travel “a path called growth motivation”[3].

    Maslow believed we must make a distinction between the motives of those who operate at or below the level of self-actualization (ones still striving for their basic needs, or ones who have met their basic needs but still live without purpose), and those who are self actualized who are also with significant purpose, as their motivations differ significantly[4]. Deficiency needs (D-needs) motivate people to satisfy physiological needs such as hunger, sex, love, whereas being needs (B-needs) propel a person beyond self-actualization and drive them to fulfill their inherent ultimate potential[5].
    Metamotivation - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia


    Happiness and self-realization

    The concept of self-realization states that it is the ultimate goal of a human being to attain permanent happiness and complete independence and freedom from all worldly bondage, and that true happiness is then the result of self-realization.

    The concept defines true happiness as the manifested Self. It only seems like a result because it is not felt or known permanently before the ego is removed. As explained by Ramana Maharshi,"Happiness is inherent in man and is not due to external causes. One must realize himself in order to experience his unalloyed happiness. All spiritual scriptures are meant to make man retrace his steps to his original source." [8]

    Awareness in self-realization

    As taught by Ramana Maharshi, awareness plays a key role in achieving self realization; with awareness, self-realization should be extremely easy to achieve. [9]
    Self-realization - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia


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    I give my relationship a 7. It loses 1 point because she doesn't have a graduate degree yet (she's working towards it). It loses one point because she is not over 35 (she's 26). It loses one point because I'm generally a dick. In theory, it could become a 9.
    Last edited by ecofarm; 07-16-11 at 03:04 AM.

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    Re: My relationship

    Quote Originally Posted by Baralis View Post
    I've been single for near a decade and love it. I would give the quiet life an 8+. I will admit I have a rare desire for companionship but when I remember all the pains that come along with a relationship I quickly get past that nonsense.
    Love sucks
    Love rocks
    You cant just get one world with love you get both of them and sometimes it sucks and sometimes it rocks. I love the rockin part tho not gonna lie


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