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Like I give a ****

Who matters to you (if they approve of you)

  • Just me. I hate to let myself down

    Votes: 5 19.2%

  • Me + my parents

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Me + family (siblings, extended)

    Votes: 8 30.8%

  • Me + Friends

    Votes: 3 11.5%

  • Me + Family and Friends

    Votes: 7 26.9%

  • If you vote that anybody else matters, seek help

    Votes: 3 11.5%
  • Total voters
    26
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Okay. Who cares if anybody likes them. And I mean anybody. Once you see the poll, you'll know what I mean.
 
I know, one side said like and the other said approve. Sorry. No coffee as yet.

There are three people that I wouldn't want to hurt, offend, anger, whatever, and this is coming from someone who used to be a people pleaser. My sole remaining sister, my daughter and my best friend. Anybody else runs a distant 78th or so, I wanna say.

Oh, and. People on the internet don't make the chart.

But the reason I voted "me and only me" is because everything else is subjective. People do strange things. I once had my best friend stop speaking to me for fifteen years. Never even said why. When we reunited on FB, she said it was because she knew me getting married would change everything.

People come and go. It's the nature of life. I guess the end result is that I've become somewhat jaded, in my realization of no permanence. That's probably a good thing. I mean, it beats NOT getting it, and being heartbroken every time a friend, family member or loved one disappears over the horizon. Right?
 
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Me and my family because my friends are family, and my definition of the word family is a lot more restricted than just blood relations.
 
makkam said:
Me and my family because my friends are family, and my definition of the word family is a lot more restricted than just blood relations.
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Right. Like on here, I would say my best friend. But yeah. She's my sister. My heart will BREAK when she passes. My only hope is to be first to go.
 
BDBoop said:
I know, one side said like and the other said approve. Sorry. No coffee as yet.

There are three people that I wouldn't want to hurt, offend, anger, whatever, and this is coming from someone who used to be a people pleaser. My sole remaining sister, my daughter and my best friend. Anybody else runs a distant 78th or so, I wanna say.

Oh, and. People on the internet don't make the chart.

But the reason I voted "me and only me" is because everything else is subjective. People do strange things. I once had my best friend stop speaking to me for fifteen years. Never even said why. When we reunited on FB, she said it was because she knew me getting married would change everything.

People come and go. It's the nature of life. I guess the end result is that I've become somewhat jaded, in my realization of no permanence. That's probably a good thing. I mean, it beats NOT getting it, and being heartbroken every time a friend, family member or loved one disappears over the horizon. Right?
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my husband, my kids, my close friends. some other family members. people whose opinions i respect. wow...do i sound needy!
 
liblady said:
my husband, my kids, my close friends. some other family members. people whose opinions i respect. wow...do i sound needy!
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Wellllll .... you are in a completely different place and generation than I am. So, no; I can't say that you do. :) Not needy. Just a full life. Das is gud.
 
My brother, my mother, my father, and two extremely close friends.
 
I think everyone enjoys being liked and excepted by others regardless of who they are.

I am who I am and if that disappoints anyone else I am sorry I am not what you expected but Im not gonna change for you. I feel when persons expect others to change who they are to better suit themselves they are being selfish.

I like/love the people I care about because of who they are and not who they could be.
 
Me and my family. My close friends are considered family to me, so those are included. If anyone else doesnt like me or doesnt approve of me, it doesnt really matter because those are people who I can chose to have in my daily life or not. My self and my family are the most important people in my life and I would always do my best to make sure Im doing the right things for them and for myself, so naturally I care what they think.
 
BDBoop said:
Wellllll .... you are in a completely different place and generation than I am. So, no; I can't say that you do. :) Not needy. Just a full life. Das is gud.
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we are of the same generation!
 
Baralis said:
I think everyone enjoys being liked and excepted by others regardless of who they are.
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True. And then comes a time when one realizes the price is too high, and they don't even know who they are anymore, because they're too busy being whoever anybody and everybody wants them to be.
 
liblady said:
we are of the same generation!
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LIES!! You're in your 30's. Admit it!!!!

Okay, fine.

/sulk

I don't have normalcy. Just facts! Which most people know here anyway, but don't want to be viewed as seeking pity. It just sounds bad when it all adds up. Mom deceased, estranged from sister and her father. Husband out-of-picture. One sibling missing since 1987. So I'm down to the people who actually matter to me, i.e., remaining sister, daughter (well, her husband, his brother and their parents are amazing people. I just don't see them enough to even call them 'friend'), and best friend. The people I live with, yes. I could call friend. But they're not on my short list of people I love with all my heart.
 
BDBoop said:
True. And then comes a time when one realizes the price is too high, and they don't even know who they are anymore, because they're too busy being whoever anybody and everybody wants them to be.
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I couldn't agree more. I feel many people fall into this trap and before they know it they have lost themselves and who they really are in an attempt to please others. That is why I gave up trying to be anything other then who I am for anyone. Take me or leave me this is who I am.
 
BDBoop said:
LIES!! You're in your 30's. Admit it!!!!

Okay, fine.

/sulk

I don't have normalcy. Just facts! Which most people know here anyway, but don't want to be viewed as seeking pity. It just sounds bad when it all adds up. Mom deceased, estranged from sister and her father. Husband out-of-picture. One sibling missing since 1987. So I'm down to the people who actually matter to me, i.e., remaining sister, daughter (well, her husband, his brother and their parents are amazing people. I just don't see them enough to even call them 'friend'), and best friend. The people I live with, yes. I could call friend. But they're not on my short list of people I love with all my heart.
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i don't have "normalcy" either......but that doesn't stop my from trying! and you didn't mention "loving with all your heart" you posted about approval and what other people may think of you. for example, my husband has an uncle that i would hate to disappoint, not because i see him regularly, or love him with all my heart, but because i have always had a great respect for him and for the way he leads his life. he is one of those people who will ALWAYS do the right thing.
 
liblady said:
i don't have "normalcy" either......but that doesn't stop my from trying! and you didn't mention "loving with all your heart" you posted about approval and what other people may think of you. for example, my husband has an uncle that i would hate to disappoint, not because i see him regularly, or love him with all my heart, but because i have always had a great respect for him and for the way he leads his life. he is one of those people who will ALWAYS do the right thing.
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I don't have any of those people, so - okay I do. But he's a Republican. <falls over midst gales of laughter>
 
On a personal level, I've never cared what anyone has thought of me, including family and friends, mainly because they don't see my motivations, and my goals. And it'd be too much to constantly tell them why I do everything I do.

On a professional level, I want to go into business, and I know that it doesn't matter what I care, I have to look good to everyone all the time. So, I've consciously kind of built my lifestyle in a way that you would want to see in a businessman.
 
repeter said:
On a personal level, I've never cared what anyone has thought of me, including family and friends, mainly because they don't see my motivations, and my goals. And it'd be too much to constantly tell them why I do everything I do.

On a professional level, I want to go into business, and I know that it doesn't matter what I care, I have to look good to everyone all the time. So, I've consciously kind of built my lifestyle in a way that you would want to see in a businessman.
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That's logical. Shows good planning.

There are too many people on the planet who honestly seem to believe their life is perfect, so now they have to straighten out everybody in earshot. I can't go for that.
 
I suppose my signature below says it all.
 
I believe the younger you are the more others are important....as you age you realize that no matter what you do throughout your life your going to piss every one off thats been in it...and you have to just blow it off....I put if you said anyone else seek help
 
I have always taken my mother's advice, because she is a great mother.
 
The only people that I care of what they think of me is my immediate family. Everyone else can deal with what they see or stuff it.
 
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. ~ Dr. Seuss.
 
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