Female: I have kid(s)/ I want kid(s)
Female: I don't want children
Male: I have kid(s)/ I want kid(s)
Male: I don't want children
aaaaAAAHHHHHh THEY SAY THAT! THEY REALLY SAY THAT!!!
“If we must have an enemy at the head of Government, let it be one whom we can oppose, and for whom we are not responsible, who will not involve our party in the disgrace of his foolish and bad measures.”
- Alexander Hamilton. Spiritual father of #NeverTrump
I find it unsurprising that more men without children already don't want to have any, but in reference to the two women that said they don't want children, my question is how do you plan to fill that biological instinctive gap? Cats? I find it interesting much more guys with kids want more...maybe it has to also do with the ratio of men/women posters....
"We’re going to close the unproductive tax loopholes that allow some of the truly wealthy to avoid paying their fair share. In theory, some of those loopholes were understandable, but in practice they sometimes made it possible for millionaires to pay nothing, while a bus driver was paying ten percent of his salary, and that’s crazy." -Reagan
I actually had an incident at a bakery when Tiara was maybe three months old. This lady was making me nervous, she was hovering but not saying anything. As we were walking out, she was driving away. She stopped her car, opened the window and said "I just had to tell you: That is the most beautiful baby I have ever seen."
I will say that I appear to belong to a minority group amongst the childfree. It seems to me that most childfree people are so not because they have no parenting drive the way I do, but because they decided there were other things in life that were more important to them. For most, it's a sacrifice. For me, it's the only way I can picture myself living. I know others like myself, but we are a minority.
I do own a cat, but let's put it this way: having to care for a very old cat is at the absolute limit of my patience. And they are still nowhere near as needy as a child. In addition to that, I couldn't picture myself having more than one cat. What I like about cats is that you DON'T have to parent them. They're more like roommates and friends than children. This is why I prefer cats to dogs - dogs feel more like children to me.
Some of use genuinely have no desire to parent.
And some of us simply have more important things we'd rather be doing.
Last edited by SmokeAndMirrors; 07-10-11 at 01:18 PM.
They do? I guess that's why nursing homes are springing up left and right, eh? Bringing another human being into the world with the automatic expectation of how they will spend the most productive years of their life is not only selfish, but it's a great way for you to wind up screwed by not planning around the fact that maybe, just maybe, they have their own ideas of what they want to do with their lives? Sounds like the same sort of imaginary "Kodak moment" that makes people who shouldn't have kids wind up with them in the first place.you take care of your parents when they age. my folks are taking care of my grandparents, who took care of my great grandparents first. I will take care of them when they get older, and my sons will take care of me and my wife one day - gently telling me I shouldn't drive any more, and should let them come over every other weekend to do the yard work; or that maybe the house is too much for us to take care of now, but they found this really great place that's close to them... and so on and so forth. that's the beauty of family - we take care of each other.
Mind you, that isn't to say I think it's bad when kids do this, and it also makes no statement about what I plan to do when my parents get older.
No one is. Just saying people need to make better plans than "Oh, I can just force another autonomous person to do it." And also that I would personally not be interested in being taken care of. But that is just me.if you want to commit suicide at a given age that's your deal - but let's not try to push that as the only option for others, eh?
Last edited by SmokeAndMirrors; 07-10-11 at 01:28 PM.
And what if the kids you "pump out" have debilitating health issues? Is one supposed to "pump out" more, so they can not only care for the parent, but their older sibling?