View Poll Results: Do you have children?

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  • Female: I have kid(s)/ I want kid(s)

    6 9.38%
  • Female: I don't want children

    2 3.13%
  • Male: I have kid(s)/ I want kid(s)

    30 46.88%
  • Male: I don't want children

    19 29.69%
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    7 10.94%
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Thread: Do you want children?

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    Re: Do you want children?

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    You said she could be choosing not to give birth to the next Edison
    no, i said that depending on outliers as a measure of worth was a poor way to approach the discussion. specifically, someone suggested that i couldn't say that children were of worth because the kid might be a sociopath - and I was pointing out that if you are going with outlier odds, he could just as easily be a genius that makes the world a better place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cpwill View Post
    no, i said that depending on outliers as a measure of worth was a poor way to approach the discussion. specifically, someone suggested that i couldn't say that children were of worth because the kid might be a sociopath - and I was pointing out that if you are going with outlier odds, he could just as easily be a genius that makes the world a better place.
    So the what-if arguments are useless in this discussion? I agree. No case is made for either side by venturing speculation as to what value or burden a kid might ultimately have on/to society.

    But since kids cost big money and make some of my current goals in life more difficult if not impossible, then for me personally there can be no logical argument for having kids. So unless I decide logically some day that I want to become a more emotional person (which is possible I suppose), I might never necessarily WANT kids. It's unfortunate that this so obviously upsets some of my (but mostly my wife's) family, whose worldview on children has already been shaped by raising or having raised them.

    If we do have a kid, our entire world will suddenly then revolve around the kid. Other goals or drives won't matter anywhere near as much as the kid. And when the time came I'd be fine with all that emotionally (financially could be another story, depending on a lot of things). But I'd be "happy" in a different way than I can currently experience it. I get how it works.

    The emotional will not overcome all logical and financial for me. I don't want the responsibility unless I know beyond a reasonable doubt I'll always be able to handle that responsibility. To pay or provide for the kid come what may, to spend a lot of time with the kid, teach a wealth of skills (that I don't even have yet).

    I've just got some serious prereqs. I think it'd be a favor to the kids everywhere if more parents had more prereqs.

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