Female: I have kid(s)/ I want kid(s)
Female: I don't want children
Male: I have kid(s)/ I want kid(s)
Male: I don't want children
“If we must have an enemy at the head of Government, let it be one whom we can oppose, and for whom we are not responsible, who will not involve our party in the disgrace of his foolish and bad measures.”
- Alexander Hamilton. Spiritual father of #NeverTrump
But since kids cost big money and make some of my current goals in life more difficult if not impossible, then for me personally there can be no logical argument for having kids. So unless I decide logically some day that I want to become a more emotional person (which is possible I suppose), I might never necessarily WANT kids. It's unfortunate that this so obviously upsets some of my (but mostly my wife's) family, whose worldview on children has already been shaped by raising or having raised them.
If we do have a kid, our entire world will suddenly then revolve around the kid. Other goals or drives won't matter anywhere near as much as the kid. And when the time came I'd be fine with all that emotionally (financially could be another story, depending on a lot of things). But I'd be "happy" in a different way than I can currently experience it. I get how it works.
The emotional will not overcome all logical and financial for me. I don't want the responsibility unless I know beyond a reasonable doubt I'll always be able to handle that responsibility. To pay or provide for the kid come what may, to spend a lot of time with the kid, teach a wealth of skills (that I don't even have yet).
I've just got some serious prereqs. I think it'd be a favor to the kids everywhere if more parents had more prereqs.
"The knowledge and prudence of the poor themselves, are absolutely the only means by which any general and permanent improvement in their condition can be effected." - Thomas Malthus