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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    Here is the thing. Piercings do not heal like a normal wound would.

    The body wants to reject the foreign object. This is why piercing healing time is so long. I have had piercings that took up to 2 years to heal. And as I already stated, my ear piercings from when I was a baby NEVER healed. It is not just the injury of the piercing you must consider (it IS an injury - you are poking a hole through a part of the body), but also the months and maybe years of healing time thereafter, likely with repeated infections because she, being a baby, doesn't comprehend that piercings need care. She is not going to think "oh, I need to clean my piercings!" after getting dirt on her face.

    But all of this is beside the point that it is completely non-consensual. Caring her for her in necessary ways - food, water, shelter, love, learning - are necessary. Punching holes in her body are not. It is altering her body in an obvious way that is unnecessary without her consent.

    If your wife decides to do this anyway, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell her to go to a proper piercer. Don't let her get the piercings done with a piercing gun. They are dangerous, unclean, and cause more tissue damage than is necessary. The earrings are of cheap quality and often break down when in contact with the body fluids produced during healing. They have even caused outbreaks of Hepatitis.

    Please tell her to see a professional piercer who has the proper certification in your area, and who uses an AUTOCLAVE for all re-usable equipment, like forceps.


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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    Quote Originally Posted by MistressNomad View Post
    Here is the thing. Piercings do not heal like a normal wound would.

    The body wants to reject the foreign object. This is why piercing healing time is so long. I have had piercings that took up to 2 years to heal. And as I already stated, my ear piercings from when I was a baby NEVER healed. It is not just the injury of the piercing you must consider (it IS an injury - you are poking a hole through a part of the body), but also the months and maybe years of healing time thereafter, likely with repeated infections because she, being a baby, doesn't comprehend that piercings need care. She is not going to think "oh, I need to clean my piercings!" after getting dirt on her face.

    But all of this is beside the point that it is completely non-consensual. Caring her for her in necessary ways - food, water, shelter, love, learning - are necessary. Punching holes in her body are not. It is altering her body in an obvious way that is unnecessary without her consent.

    If your wife decides to do this anyway, PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE tell her to go to a proper piercer. Don't let her get the piercings done with a piercing gun. They are dangerous, unclean, and cause more tissue damage than is necessary. The earrings are of cheap quality and often break down when in contact with the body fluids produced during healing. They have even caused outbreaks of Hepatitis.

    Please tell her to see a professional piercer who has the proper certification in your area, and who uses and AUTOCLAVE for all re-usable equipment, like forceps.
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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnWOlin View Post
    Not my wife just some crazy bitch I was engaged to for 4 years and dropped me 2 weeks after my daughter was born.
    All the same, if you cannot get her to stop please tell her to see a proper piercer.

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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnWOlin View Post
    Also CarlF here is the thing about the whole decision thing, that is fine and I would rather it be her decision. But my 6 month old daughter isn't deciding anything for herself for quite sometime so this is very small in comparison. I just do not like what will be the inevitable inconvenience of it happening.
    Well my point is it shouldn't matter anyway because that type of thing should be her decision, it doesn't matter if it's going to be a while before she can make it herself or not. You should tell your ex that.

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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnWOlin View Post
    Read my posts before you respond. As for the mother, she is an incredibly good mother usually just has her values mixed up in some cases.
    I did read your post.. But being a good parent is subject to opinion.. I am sure the mothers that put their toddlers in beauty pagents think they are being good mother too.. I don't know your wife or whomever she is.. But if she is already looking to pierce the ears of essentially an infant.. Then there is some serious lack of judgement..

    Ear rings are generally worn for a number of reasons.. The biggest being as an accessory or to attract attention..Neither of which a 6 mos. Old needs to worry about.. It is sexual because it is an attempt to look pretty or attractive.. Again not something a 6 mos. old needs worry about..

    The last part was to the poster that asked how ear rings are sexual.. It is all in how they are percieved.. Girls that age don't need to look pretty.. They just need to be girls..
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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnWOlin View Post
    I am against it. I do not like the idea. However, I want to hear from anyone with experience with baby girls and I have found plenty of anecdotal and scientific reasons but her mother is incredibly persistent and I really have no say in it in the end she will eventually do it. I would like thoughts however on any negatives and or positives.
    Umm..first and foremost...if its your daughter then why the hell wouldn't you have a say in it? You as a father have every right to have a say in it. The only way that you wouldn't is if you are divorced and she has full custody.

    As for getting earrings at 6 months old? That is extremely dangerous. Earrings have a tendency to fall off. If one falls off and the baby sees it she will put it in her mouth and possibly swallow it. Which can do alot of damage. Also babies are not the most balanced of beings. They fall...lots. If an earring gets caught on something as she falls it can rip her ear lobe.

    Edit note: Made post before reading whole thread.
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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    I don't see what the big deal is. There is not one single girl in my family that didn't get her ears pierced at birth. I mean what exactly is your problem with your kid having little holes in her lobes so she can wear cute earrings?? I dunno, maybe it's culture shock or something, but I'm at a total loss at understanding your reaction.
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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnWOlin View Post
    I am against it. I do not like the idea. However, I want to hear from anyone with experience with baby girls and I have found plenty of anecdotal and scientific reasons but her mother is incredibly persistent and I really have no say in it in the end she will eventually do it. I would like thoughts however on any negatives and or positives.
    With my daughter, we are making sure she understands its ok for her to go get earrings when she wants them. So far, she has not asked though. However, my wife does not wear earrings because her ears always get infected, so she gave up on the idea and my daughter would probably have gotten them by now if her mother wore them.
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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    there are some cultures, such as the latino population, which routinely pierce the infant girls' ears
    it is found odd within those groups if the ears are not pierced early
    indonesians, and i would speculate other groups, have the same expectation
    possibly this is what is driving your daughter's mother to want her daughter's ears pierced
    and three months is not an unusual age for it to occur
    just make sure gold, titanium, or surgical steel is the material used for the earrings' posts
    (not being hispanic, my wife and i agreed our daughter would choose for herself; she did, in middle school)

    and i would ask the OP to reflect on this matter. to determine what is the real motivation driving his strong opposition to this. i did not see much rationale for his objections expressed (it consisted of "i do not like the idea"); possibly you have reasons for your opposition you chose not to share
    but make sure you are taking a stand on this because it is your daughter's interests you seek to secure
    and that this is not just an opportunity to place your daughter in the center of an ongoing conflict between you and the woman you chose not to marry during a four year, and subsequently pregnant, engagement
    my sense from your posts, here and in other threads, is that you and your former significant other have a LOT of animosity going on
    if this is really about securing your daughter's interests, then you should be willing to do whatever is in your power to assure your position prevails. if you are not there, then you may actually be looking for reasons to elevate conflict between you and the ex ... and unfortunately, that will come at your daughter's expense
    only you will be able to distinguish between what is real paternal interest and that which is directed at the bitch
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    Re: Should my six-month old daughter get earrings--why or why not?

    Quote Originally Posted by JohnWOlin View Post
    I am against it. I do not like the idea. However, I want to hear from anyone with experience with baby girls and I have found plenty of anecdotal and scientific reasons but her mother is incredibly persistent and I really have no say in it in the end she will eventually do it. I would like thoughts however on any negatives and or positives.
    See this is what happens when people get use to the nanny-state. Make your own decision, John. She's your daughter. If this were a circumcision, no one would be asking the question.
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