View Poll Results: If your partner cheats, will you stay?

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  • No, I'd end it

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  • Yes, I'd stay. Period.

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  • I'd stay conditionally

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Thread: Is an affair a dealbreaker

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by evanescence View Post
    What about just sex? My husband says he'd be more upset about sex than an emotional affair. i figured that was a guy thing. *shrugs*
    I think I'd be more upset by the emotional component, than the physical. What is it that causes a person to venture outside for their needs? In a marriage, should you not be able to find all you need inside it? Isn't that what the real commitment is, giving each other what they need?
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by lewstherin View Post
    it's your life, but you probably shouldn't give up on romantic happiness so easily after that.
    my 1st marriage was a disaster. i dealt with cheating, drug addiction, the worst kind of
    shame possible. i did give up for a few years. became somewhat of an angry recluse. but
    then, that angel from heaven sort of fell into my lap and i couldn't be happier. and really?
    i found this soul-mate BECAUSE the 1st marriage had driven me so cynical. so i would
    have to argue against a person just giving up after a bad relationship. i'm glad i didn't.
    Now that I'm married, I'm not sure that romantic happiness is really the key to a fulfilled life. I thought it would be. Maybe that's the problem. People have expectations and when they're not met, those people do not have the character to honor their vows. I have never been seriously tempted to cheat, however.

    Quote Originally Posted by Crosscheck View Post
    I think it is easier for a woman to forgive a man for a one night discretion than a man.
    Men do have this "my property" mentality. Either way it puts a scar on the relationship that will always remain.
    There is temptation all around you but you really got to think twice before you head down that road.
    I would never forgive someone for sneaking around behind my back. I would be much more understanding about it if there wasn't deception.

    Quote Originally Posted by American View Post
    I think I'd be more upset by the emotional component, than the physical. What is it that causes a person to venture outside for their needs? In a marriage, should you not be able to find all you need inside it? Isn't that what the real commitment is, giving each other what they need?
    No one can be what another person needs all the time. It's not possible. That's why marriages fail. Because people expect that. That's the selfish, egotistical part of human nature.
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