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Thread: Is an affair a dealbreaker

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Goshin View Post
    A sexual affair that includes a component of romantic love and emotional investment. It is a betrayal of the relationship on multiple levels.
    What about just sex? My husband says he'd be more upset about sex than an emotional affair. i figured that was a guy thing. *shrugs*
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by evanescence View Post
    What about just sex? My husband says he'd be more upset about sex than an emotional affair. i figured that was a guy thing. *shrugs*
    It is. He considers your body his - and I don't mean that in a cave man kinda way. I think you know what I mean. I believe women get emotionally involved before they get sexually involved, so I would assume my wife was in love with the guy she's cheating with. Finding out she isn't would bring relief.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyDan View Post
    It is. He considers your body his - and I don't mean that in a cave man kinda way. I think you know what I mean. I believe women get emotionally involved before they get sexually involved, so I would assume my wife was in love with the guy she's cheating with. Finding out she isn't would bring relief.
    most women but some just want to get laid. and yes, I think I know what you mean. To me, I wouldn't tolerate either. If i had to choose - nope. Neither. It would just be over. And from then on, I would never be in another relationship again.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by evanescence View Post
    most women but some just want to get laid. and yes, I think I know what you mean. To me, I wouldn't tolerate either. If i had to choose - nope. Neither. It would just be over. And from then on, I would never be in another relationship again.
    Strong words. I don't doubt you mean them, and I hope you never have to deal with it, but there are differences between male and female sexual drives and patterns. Women who understand men have the advantage in dealing with them over women who do not.
    Last edited by LuckyDan; 06-26-11 at 10:07 PM.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by evanescence View Post
    most women but some just want to get laid. and yes, I think I know what you mean. To me, I wouldn't tolerate either. If i had to choose - nope. Neither. It would just be over. And from then on, I would never be in another relationship again.
    it's your life, but you probably shouldn't give up on romantic happiness so easily after that.
    my 1st marriage was a disaster. i dealt with cheating, drug addiction, the worst kind of
    shame possible. i did give up for a few years. became somewhat of an angry recluse. but
    then, that angel from heaven sort of fell into my lap and i couldn't be happier. and really?
    i found this soul-mate BECAUSE the 1st marriage had driven me so cynical. so i would
    have to argue against a person just giving up after a bad relationship. i'm glad i didn't.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by lewstherin View Post
    it's your life, but you probably shouldn't give up on romantic happiness so easily after that.
    my 1st marriage was a disaster. i dealt with cheating, drug addiction, the worst kind of
    shame possible. i did give up for a few years. became somewhat of an angry recluse. but
    then, that angel from heaven sort of fell into my lap and i couldn't be happier. and really?
    i found this soul-mate BECAUSE the 1st marriage had driven me so cynical. so i would
    have to argue against a person just giving up after a bad relationship. i'm glad i didn't.
    Great story! Congrats.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyDan View Post
    It is. He considers your body his - and I don't mean that in a cave man kinda way. I think you know what I mean. I believe women get emotionally involved before they get sexually involved, so I would assume my wife was in love with the guy she's cheating with. Finding out she isn't would bring relief.
    That's what I was thinking, but didn't post. Men know (or think they do, or for the most part, disclaimers and etc) women don't make like bunnies. "Hi there, talldarkhandsomestranger. How can I love you if you won't lie down?"

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    I think it is easier for a woman to forgive a man for a one night discretion than a man.
    Men do have this "my property" mentality. Either way it puts a scar on the relationship that will always remain.
    There is temptation all around you but you really got to think twice before you head down that road.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by TacticalEvilDan View Post
    Well, that's just fantastic. In other words, you don't even have your own nostalgia to base your opinion on, you've got someone else's nostalgia to work with.

    So apparently they're forgetting about America's ups and downs and how they happened both before and after she "went to hell."

    They may be honest by your estimation, but by mine they're forgetful at best.
    He should ask the non-whored out generation to explain to him the concept of war-brides. I can tell you that not everyone thought they were honorable people.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Crosscheck View Post
    I think it is easier for a woman to forgive a man for a one night discretion than a man. Men do have this "my property" mentality. Either way it puts a scar on the relationship that will always remain.
    There is temptation all around you but you really got to think twice before you head down that road.
    Interesting. I'm not sure I agree with the bold part, tho.

    You raise a good question. Which sex faces more temptation?

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