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Thread: Is an affair a dealbreaker

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Kali View Post
    But keeping something on the side you know nothing about is a smack in the face in reguards to loyalty.
    Not really. Having sex discreetly with other men won't keep her from being by my side when I need her.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by MistressNomad View Post
    Not really. Rape happened (and still does), but it is taboo in all higher primates. Not just us. This is not an outgrowth of modern civilization - it's part of being an intelligent social mammal, and specifically a primate.
    who said rape was a taboo? Rape has been a historical norm; it's only very, very, very recently that we've begun to care about anyone other than our own females being raped.

    The average human relationship does tend towards monogamy, but historically it's not life-long. And this was even back in the times when humans only lived 30 or 40 years.
    often you saw one partner die before the other from something other than old-age, and they would then remarry, that's true. that's not quite the same thing as the rampant divorce that we see today.

    And in the modern era, where humans live twice as long, an expectation of life-long monogamy becomes even more unrealistic, reflected by our divorce rates and infidelity rates.
    this is incorrect - those things are the result of social changes in how we approach both of those topics, as well as technological advances and legal alterations in how we treat them.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Viktyr Korimir View Post
    Not really. Having sex discreetly with other men won't keep her from being by my side when I need her.
    It easily can. Why should she deal with extra difficulty with you when she has an alternative she can easily jump ship to?

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by cpwill View Post
    It easily can. Why should she deal with extra difficulty with you when she has an alternative she can easily jump ship to?
    Because that alternative will eventually develop similar "extra difficulties" as all relationships eventually do. If she has any sort of intelligence whatsoever she will know this and if she doesn't then he's much better off without her anyway.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Viktyr Korimir View Post
    Not really. Having sex discreetly with other men won't keep her from being by my side when I need her.
    It would if she's too busy screwing another guy.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by evanescence View Post
    It would if she's too busy screwing another guy.
    Exactly. That's the point that it becomes a problem for me.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    My motto: to each his own.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Mason66 View Post
    Can you define cheating? Is it a one night stand or is it an ongoing emotional relationship with another person?

    Please answer then I can answer.
    For me, each would be a complete break of faith and trust.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    For me, each would be a complete break of faith and trust.
    Which is worst? An emotional affair or a sexual affair? (and no, I don't want to start another thread).
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by evanescence View Post
    Which is worst? An emotional affair or a sexual affair? (and no, I don't want to start another thread).
    A sexual affair that includes a component of romantic love and emotional investment. It is a betrayal of the relationship on multiple levels.

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