No, I'd end it
Yes, I'd stay. Period.
I'd stay conditionally
Don't know/not sure/not in a relationship/HOT POCKETS!
I don't see cheaters as unfaithful scum as others seem to. I see them as people playing the monogamy game when they aren't meant to, and that's okay. Our social fabric seems setup to force one kind of relationship on people, and that isn't realistic for many.
If you have established trust with your partner on the basis of monogamy, then yes, you are right to feel betrayed if that trust is broken. My partner and I are both polyamorous and we both put equal time and energy into any other partner we have. It takes a lot of work to be equally committed to multiple people (which is why I only have one partner right now). It is not infidelity, but a very conscious practice.
I don't see why monogamy in of itself should have anything to do with the value of your relationship, or with your partner's choices that happen away from you. Why does it matter what they do with someone else? All that matters is how they relate to you. If their relationship with someone else is hurting your relationship (i.e. they are not fulfilling their commitments, there are scheduling problems, etc.), then that's something worth looking at, especially if you have a kid. On the other hand, them being with someone else does not summarily make them unfaithful trash.
There's a reason why people call it "free love". I am not talking about polysexery and trying to get off with as many people as possible. It seems like most of people's suffering about cheating stems from being too attached. When I love someone, it makes much more sense for them to remain free in my eyes. I want them to be free, but because we are together, I expect communication and sharing about what they are experiencing. That's all I ask for.
All these personal wounds... over humans being humans, and then having a guilt and shame complex about it. It has not been my reality and I don't understand it. For some people monogamy works and that's great, but looking at the divorce statistics, I don't think it's meant to last for many. Or at least, the way monogamy is playing out seems to be stagnating people's lives so that they want to escape, as if monogamy or divorce are the only two options.
Relationships need to evolve or they die. It's just that simple. And sometimes, their evolving leads to a natural ending anyway.
high AIDS rates are due to men accidentally placing their dicks in the asses of other men. what a wonderful world we live in
where the dumb ass excuses of immorality can justify actual consequence.
“The ideal form of government is democracy tempered with assassination.”
I really lack the experience compared to you guys. I am still pretty young, so honestly I am not sure how I would respond. (I haven't had to deal with this issue yet.) I suppose, in my attempt to grasp the situation, I tend to look at it from a biological stand point.
I have always thought that a relationship for life goes against the very fabric of our humanity. At least right now, I feel that naturally we are supposed to have multiple partners. Maybe not at the same time, but what I mean is not being with someone for life.
The evidence of the large number of divorces, as I see it, is evidence of this. But who knows, maybe I will meet that woman that sweeps me off my feet.
So you think poverty has nothing to do with crime?
"To waste, to destroy, our natural resources, to skin and exhaust the land instead of using it so as to increase its usefulness, will result in undermining in the days of our children the very prosperity which we ought by rights to hand down to them."~ Theodore Roosevelt (Message to Congress, Dec. 3, 1907)