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Thread: Is an affair a dealbreaker

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Jeezy View Post
    Most graphs I've seen indicate late 60s. Doesn't really affect whatever the hell it is you were saying though.

    This thread turned stupid overnight.
    Nah. Just ignore those bits. I'm still enjoying the mature interaction.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Jeezy View Post
    Most graphs I've seen indicate late 60s. Doesn't really affect whatever the hell it is you were saying though.

    This thread turned stupid overnight.
    yours would indicate the "sexual revolution" then causing the downfall of the family.
    i won't argue that point.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Jerry View Post
    I sincerely doubt the average couple has the formal sit-down to define terms and conditions as you claim.

    These are assumptions based on culture, 'common-sense' premises, which people typically take for granted.

    And yeah, anything you choose can kill your relationship, those are your personal preferences and that's fine; but that doesn't mean your significant other broke some rule. Simply going against your preferences isn't cheating even if it makes you walk away.

    So yes it's up to the couple to design the terms, but that doesn't mean they do. A lot is simply assumed, and you know what happens when you assume....
    Actually it seems like common sense to me for people to openly discuss their expectations of the relationship, including terms and conditions. Even before we married, my husband and I actually sat down and discussed specific terms and conditions even down to what we each considered cheating. Then we had a verbal agreement to be monogamous. People who don't do this much are likely dooming their relationships from the beginning by not communicating honestly. Also, by having this discussion, people can see if they have compatible morality. That is extremely important since many people have different views of what monogamy is.

    Quote Originally Posted by Tucker Case View Post
    Really depends on the circumstances, to be honest. If I hadn't banged my wife in a year, I wouldn't blame her for going out and getting some.

    I don't think she'd take the same perspective, though.
    I tend to agree with this. If people do not please their spouses, affairs usually happen. Even the bible says this, oddly enough. And I hold to that which is why I rarely turn my husband down for sex.

    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Spiker View Post
    I went 16 months without any - I managed and so did he without turning into wretched vow violating beasts of compulsion.

    But that's just us - a lot of military families don't fair as well.
    Some may, but most don't. I can't tell you how many people I've heard of having affairs either while their spouses are away, or while overseas. Most people cannot seem to control themselves past a certain point.



    Quote Originally Posted by Removable Mind View Post
    With all due respect Lewstherin, if you are going to inject "Stats" into your argument (which you've allude to such), it would be really nice if you included "your stats" to support your position. It's not that we don't believe you. Lord knows we trust your every word, but for the sake of argument, appease us.
    The stats on people's sexual habits, even how many partners they have slept with, are almost always lies. People are rarely honest about these things. For example, I read a statistic that said that the average person on the planet only has six partners in a life time-yeah right. Not a friggin chance.

    For me, an affair most certainly is a deal breaker unless there was an agreement from the beginning that the relationship is open-which I doubt I could stand at this point. I personally hate cheaters beyond what words can describe. It's probably my obsession with loyalty that makes me feel this way. Imo, people should at least have enough respect for the person they supposedly love to be honest. My view: if someone is unhappy or unfulfilled, they should end they relationship before the have sex with someone else.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by lewstherin View Post
    sorry, hon. but the stats prove you wrong. this nation has went to hell since the liberal agenda effected
    it's "destruction of the nuclear family" crusade back in the late 1950's. this nation, along with our culture and
    society have been demoralized to the point where love, honor, and honesty mean nothing at all. and with this
    demoralization, man has regressed to a more primitive mindset. man is now more interested in material excess
    and "gadgets" than his own personal elevation, both spiritual and physical. and it is all connected, whether you like it or not.
    Interesting. So, then, I take it you were born in the 1930s at the latest, yes? After all, in order to have something to compare the 50s to, you'd need to have a clear memory of the 40s, and that would make you at least 70.

    Being at least 70, your memory must be getting a little fuzzy. You must be forgetting about the blind eye we turned to the plight of the European Jew, then the internment camps after we finally bothered to get involved, the red scares that came after the war, the hanging of uppity niggers all throughout, the fact that it took the National Guard to begin the end of institutional racism, the way our involvement in Korea and Vietnam tore the country to pieces, the petroleum shortages, the market plunge in the 80s and the resulting economic hardship, and so on.

    America has a history of one turmoil after another. It was born in turmoil, and some of our highest laws were penned as the result of further turmoil. Each time we came out the other side either stronger than we were, or merely different from before, or some of each.

    Of course, if you're any younger than 70, shut the **** up and stop talking about how great the America you never saw supposedly was.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by TacticalEvilDan View Post
    Interesting. So, then, I take it you were born in the 1930s at the latest, yes? After all, in order to have something to compare the 50s to, you'd need to have a clear memory of the 40s, and that would make you at least 70.

    Being at least 70, your memory must be getting a little fuzzy. You must be forgetting about the blind eye we turned to the plight of the European Jew, then the internment camps after we finally bothered to get involved, the red scares that came after the war, the hanging of uppity niggers all throughout, the fact that it took the National Guard to begin the end of institutional racism, the way our involvement in Korea and Vietnam tore the country to pieces, the petroleum shortages, the market plunge in the 80s and the resulting economic hardship, and so on.

    America has a history of one turmoil after another. It was born in turmoil, and some of our highest laws were penned as the result of further turmoil. Each time we came out the other side either stronger than we were, or merely different from before, or some of each.

    Of course, if you're any younger than 70, shut the **** up and stop talking about how great the America you never saw supposedly was.
    oh...so now you all want my opinion from experience? because before, you all wanted proof from statistical links.
    maybe you widdle muddled minded tinkers should make up your own damn minds.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Coincidentally, today is my 11th anniversary.


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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by lewstherin View Post
    oh...so now you all want my opinion from experience? because before, you all wanted proof from statistical links.
    maybe you widdle muddled minded tinkers should make up your own damn minds.
    Maybe your widdle muddled minded self should keep in mind that I just entered this discussion.
    I'm already gearing up for Finger Vote 2014.

    Just for reference, means my post was a giant steaming pile of sarcasm.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by TacticalEvilDan View Post
    Maybe your widdle muddled minded self should keep in mind that I just entered this discussion.
    all i'm saying is: i started off giving my opinion....
    after that....people demanded links...............
    after that....people attempted to discredit my links...............
    after that.....i challenged them to refute the link............
    after that.......i get drug back into the "opinion arena"....

    debating here is essentially a neverending cycle of "penis-wagging".
    i'm gonna keep dancing around, though. i can wag with the best of them.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by lewstherin View Post
    all i'm saying is: i started off giving my opinion....
    after that....people demanded links...............
    after that....people attempted to discredit my links...............
    after that.....i challenged them to refute the link............
    after that.......i get drug back into the "opinion arena"....

    debating here is essentially a neverending cycle of "penis-wagging".
    i'm gonna keep dancing around, though. i can wag with the best of them.
    You're basing your opinion on an America you never lived in.

    Keep wagging it around, that's about all your idealized opinion is worth.
    I'm already gearing up for Finger Vote 2014.

    Just for reference, means my post was a giant steaming pile of sarcasm.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by TacticalEvilDan View Post
    You're basing your opinion on an America you never lived in.

    Keep wagging it around, that's about all your idealized opinion is worth.
    i'm basing my opinion on the word of my elders....who just happen to have far more honesty and
    honor than the likes of this whored out generation.
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