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Thread: Is an affair a dealbreaker

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Khayembii Communique View Post
    A woman cheating in a relationship is due to a failure on the man's part. .

    Pardon me, but horse-****. There are women (just as there are men) who are simply cheaters-by-nature, and there is nothing you can do to prevent them from cheating. Period. If you believe otherwise, you must never have encountered one. I'd find this remarkable if you're over 30.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Really depends on the circumstances, to be honest. If I hadn't banged my wife in a year, I wouldn't blame her for going out and getting some.

    I don't think she'd take the same perspective, though.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Jerry View Post
    It's imposable to cheat on a bf or gf, because there's no presumption of monogamy, no commitment or intent to commit in the first place. Their sex life is their business, so they're not even obligated to tell you. It would be polite, yes, but they're not required.
    Clearly you and I do not view relationships the same way. You don't see a commitment until there's a legal agreement and a ring. I see one when we agree to one. I've always had a presumption of monogamy, as have my partners. It's an extra step to agree otherwise. You must have been out of the dating pool for a while, and perhaps were never that far into it. Most relationships are monogamous.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    If a partner cheats, should the relationship/marriage end (in your estimation.)
    Oops. Mis-voted.

    I would get out of that relationship immediately. She can keep the house, the dog, the DVD, and the car. I can always start over again, and do so without the load on my time and energy that she would be.
    Also, we need to legalize recreational drugs and prostitution.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    I'm out 99.9%.

    The 0.1% if right after she brings her back home.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Prior to our marriage 42 1/2 years ago, I told my bride-to-be that I would be faithful to her for forever. However, I told her that if Jacqlyn Smith or Farrah Faucett ever laid down in front of me and begged me to be unfaithful, I might have to renege on my vow. As you can imagine, I have been faithful for the entire time.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by samsmart View Post
    Oops. Mis-voted.

    I would get out of that relationship immediately. She can keep the house, the dog, the DVD, and the car. I can always start over again, and do so without the load on my time and energy that she would be.
    Surely you jest. I lost the dogs. I still cry, sometimes. He could have everything else, though.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by Tucker Case View Post
    Really depends on the circumstances, to be honest. If I hadn't banged my wife in a year, I wouldn't blame her for going out and getting some.

    I don't think she'd take the same perspective, though.
    I went 16 months without any - I managed and so did he without turning into wretched vow violating beasts of compulsion.

    But that's just us - a lot of military families don't fair as well.
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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    Surely you jest. I lost the dogs. I still cry, sometimes. He could have everything else, though.
    No jest. It just means she gets to pay their veternary bills.
    Also, we need to legalize recreational drugs and prostitution.

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    Re: Is an affair a dealbreaker

    Quote Originally Posted by MaggieD View Post
    I don't agree, if you mean to place blame on the noncheating spouse. Commitment is commitment. Don't want to be married? Get a divorce....get in counselling...blaming your partner is a coward's way out.
    Uh huh, I hear ya....that's the conventional wisdom isn't it? With 50% divorce rates, I think people need to start looking at alternative views, instead of the **** they watch on TV. A commitment goes both ways, and lots of people become uncommitted in different ways that aren't stereotypical. There are no one way committments in marriage.
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