No, I'd end it
Yes, I'd stay. Period.
I'd stay conditionally
Don't know/not sure/not in a relationship/HOT POCKETS!
I'm not sure. It wouldn't be the sex that got me upset, but the lying. That kind of violation of trust might just be too much.
If there's a god, damn it she won't mind.
If there's a god, baby she won't mind.
my 1st wife cheated on me. was it in anyway my fault? no. well, unless i want to blame myself for choosing such a trashy woman to begin with. but i personally did nothing to "make her cheat".
“The ideal form of government is democracy tempered with assassination.”
These are assumptions based on culture, 'common-sense' premises, which people typically take for granted.
And yeah, anything you choose can kill your relationship, those are your personal preferences and that's fine; but that doesn't mean your significant other broke some rule. Simply going against your preferences isn't cheating even if it makes you walk away.
So yes it's up to the couple to design the terms, but that doesn't mean they do. A lot is simply assumed, and you know what happens when you assume....
Last edited by Jerry; 06-24-11 at 02:12 PM.
If they just decide to start dating, it's casual, no obligation, no commitment, it's just getting to know each-other. If you're seeing someone and they're also seeing other people, so what? Who are you to complain about their personal life? It's their choice. That's so arrogant of you to assume that you will be the only one. Nothing makes you special unless he thinks so. That's not something you have any right to force on him.
Now, if he's made some level of commitment to you, then there are rules. But just seeing someone a few times you met online or a friend hooked you up with, not so much. It's ok to go on dates with a few different people at the same time. That doesn't make you a slut or him a player.
Nothing was as important to me as my wife was for over 30 years, and consequently nothing ever hurt as much finding that she had been betraying me. It was 10 years ago and it still hurts every day.
I can't even be around people who lie, cheat, and steal, or those who condone it.
I make my stance very clear in relationships, and conversations about rules we can both agree on are mandatory with me. I'm not going to blindly guess, nor leave my partner to blindly guess, and I'm not going to make assumptions.
I do this having never been married, and with no intent of ever getting married.
This is simply the fact that people tend to handle their relationships immaturely. It has nothing to do with the piece of metal. The piece of metal is just a stand-in for the conversation they should have had ages ago.
What gets me is when they don't communicate and then one finds out the other is seeing other people and accuses them of cheating.
Well, no, if there was no clear obligation to be monogamous or any level of real commitment, then it's not cheating.
I've let go of a lot of my feelings about him, but I will never forgive him for what he did.