No, I'd end it
Yes, I'd stay. Period.
I'd stay conditionally
Don't know/not sure/not in a relationship/HOT POCKETS!
She's correct in that I'm going to take the children from her when I get back fro Afghan, but she will have as much contact as she desires. It would be great if she moved back to the aria and saw them every day after school. She and I can be civil together, so trips to the park with the kids, for example, aren't out of the question either.
But I know that's not going to happen. The moment I take the children, she will disappear, because she's a prescription drug addict, and paranoia is but one of her clinically diagnosed problems.
Basically, if there's no ring of some kind on your finger, even if it's a 'friendship' ring I've seen on long-term gf's, then there are no rules. Since cheating is braking a rule to gain an advantage, if there are no rules, no act can be cheating.
Of course a healthy dose of communication is always recommended, and secrecy generally to be avoided, but being a player when you're not committed to anyone simply isn't 'cheating'. This is why I don't hold my X accountable for having other boyfriends before we were engaged. There was no presumption of monogamy, no commitment or intent to commit at that time.
Of course, where my dumb ass went wrong was in not realizing that her behavior wouldn't change with a wedding ceremony. She was who she was, and she was going to do what she was going to do. You can't plug a hole with a ring; crude but true.
Women are not the same as men, so this doesn't hold.Originally Posted by BD Boop
I don't know if I believe this, really. Regardless, I'd rather treat it as a failure on my part and figure out how to improve myself than blame it on someone else and be spiteful.Some people are just cheating scum, and that is not the fault of the partner. Period.
I guess that depends on your idea of what a "working relationship" means. If I'm desperate enough I could go and find someone equally as desperate and "make it work". But just because two people remain together IMO that doesn't mean that it's "working".Originally Posted by BamaBrat
More often than not relationships are built on desperation, which in my opinion isn't a working relationship.
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