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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by roguenuke View Post
    No, he could conceivably be her grandfather. In fact, she would be younger than the two women would need to be allow this to happen. Child born at 17, then grandchild born when person is 34 (child is 17 year old parent), then that would put a person at old enough to be grandparent. In fact, an age difference of 25-30 years is actually enough to think of the older as old enough to be the younger's grandparent.
    That's why I wrote "hardly", not impossible. But come on, father at 17 and than again grandfather at 34? That's way too strangly fast. Life is much more than reproduction and we are not living in the 15-th century.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    I think as you get older the gap widens a big. And by older I mean into that 30 and 50's+ range. Like...a 35 and 55 year old seems less "weird" to me than a 18 and 38 year old.

    You can always go with the hypothetical "(Age / 2) + 8)" theory.

    Really, I think a lot of times it has to do with the maturity level of th individual as well. I've seen 30 year olds that I wouldn't find it too "weird" that they're taking a 19 year old because they still have the maturity level of college kids. But yeah, in general large age gaps are weird. My wife has a friend who, due to her parents having a large age gap (38 and 63, both remarried, when they had her) and having daddy issues, tends to go for much older guys. The few times she's dated them she then tries to bring them around to be a "part of the group"...yet you have a bunch of 25-35 year olds hanging out with a guy in his 50's at a bar and it...just doesn't mesh well.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    As long as they're both adults, I don't see anything wrong with it. Sixteen is plenty old enough. That said, I'm unlikely to pursue anyone that isn't within around ten years of me barring exceptional circumstances.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    He is hoping for great sex; she wants money and/or exposure... win/win for them both...
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by StillBallin75 View Post
    Personally I would like to stick to someone in my age group.
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    My squickies wouldn't be kicking in anywhere near as much, no.

    No legislating or prevention. A parent signed off, so they are good to go.
    That's the part that disturbs me. An age difference of that many years when either party is a legal adult, I don't have a problem with. 16 is still a child. I'm also grossed out imagining that he has probably known since she was even younger than that.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Canell View Post
    That's why I wrote "hardly", not impossible. But come on, father at 17 and than again grandfather at 34? That's way too strangly fast. Life is much more than reproduction and we are not living in the 15-th century.
    My cousin had 3 kids by the time she graduated high school. And it would not surprise me if one of her children had a child before they got out of high school.

    And it does happen. It wouldn't even have to be that precise (17 and 17). There is a lot of teenage pregnancy. If the father/mother was born when one of his/her parents was between 12 and 16 (possible for them to be younger but rare), then he/she could have been between 18 and 22. It also works the other way around too. Most people would consider that pretty young to have children, but it is not as rare as people would think, especially if the father's/mother's father was between the ages necessary and left before or right after the baby was born. Then it actually increases the chance of the child having a baby during the teenage years.
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    As long as they're both over 18 it can be 18 and 10000 for all I care.
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    For me personally.
    I NEVER let my daughter at 16 date a grown man, ever.

    For me personally and my life I have dated 12 up(Me 24 her 36) and 10 down (me 28 her 18)

    I would never date a minor though technically I did when I was 19, I dated a 17 year,old but I dont considered that a grown man dating a 16 year old like in this case.

    Now to each their own if the relationship is a healthy happy one
    Its hard to believe it is and my only concern is because the girl is a minor and it seems like of course its agenda driven but I don't know.
    If they were both legal adults id have no concerns, its none of my business.
    Technically this isnt either since the parent signed off but since I was asked i threw in my 2 cents.

    On a side note I coach softball, Ive had girls 16 hit on me and say absolutely ridiculous stuff and theres another team I work with that is older 19U and they do the same and two have even flat asked me out or to "hook up"

    Well, I DONT LIKE IT lol
    don't get me wrong, Im a man and quite frankly some of these girls look like women and are VERY VERY physically attractive but mentally something inside me just wont let me cross that line. Maybe because my daughter is 15.

    My team 16U with some girls 17 I yell at them when they do that stuff.
    The 19U team isnt mine so I laugh and play it off and sometimes tell them thats enough or ask what in the hell do they want with somebody almost double their age but they just laugh and keep doing it. It even got serious with one girl where I had to have a talk with her and explain to her to knock it off and she cant act like that. I got freaked out when she sent me pictures the day after her 18th birthday.

    Some of them even laugh and ask my daughter how she'd feel about an 18 year old mom?! lol

    Anyway I could never do it, not a minor, not a brand new adult, at least I dont think I could.

    But anyway I guess the reality is these things happen, and they happen more often than we talk about or acknowledge.

    Adults? who cares none of my business.
    Minors and adults have to not break the law and be careful and if they do its nobody's business.
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    My wife and I got together at a rainbow gathering when she was 18 and I was 35. We both considered it a "fling", but it never ended.

    That was 11 years ago, and while the age difference has caused problems here and there, I would consider our relationship above average.

    MOST of the guys I know in long term relationships really look forward to "escaping" from their partners as often as possible. My wife and I still really enjoy each other's company.

    That said, the only real concern is longevity. My moms side, not so good. My dads on the other hand, pretty damn good. My pat grandmother went to a home when she couldn't take care of it by herself anymore. Last I heard she was 100 and pushing other folks in their wheelchairs to activities she facilitates, and I take after my dad in basic health, so there's hope!
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