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Thread: Age gaps - how much is too much

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    I just found out that an actor I really enjoyed in The Green Mile, Doug Hutchison as Percy Wetmore, was born in 1960. His bride is 16.
    Well, unfortunately Hutchison looks a bit creepy and has acted as some pretty creepy characters (noticeably in X-files) so it adds to a picture there might be of him being a child predator.

    I wonder though - Liz Taylor was 20 years older than Larry Fortensky when they married (59 and 39 years), Joan Collins was 32 years older than Percy Gibson when they married (68 to 36) and Hugh Hefner is 85 and would have married a model 60 years his junior at 25.

    Are we really only creeped out because Hutchison's bride is just 16? I admit I wouldn't be bothered if she was 20 so do we raise the age of marriage to at least 20?

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Canell View Post
    Come on now, 34 is just the perfect years to marry (for a man that is). But I don't really know if a 16 old girl has the ability to take the right decision. She is still a teenager, for God sake.
    He's not 34. He's 35 years older than her. He's 51.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Infinite Chaos View Post
    Well, unfortunately Hutchison looks a bit creepy and has acted as some pretty creepy characters (noticeably in X-files) so it adds to a picture there might be of him being a child predator.

    I wonder though - Liz Taylor was 20 years older than Larry Fortensky when they married (59 and 39 years), Joan Collins was 32 years older than Percy Gibson when they married (68 to 36) and Hugh Hefner is 85 and would have married a model 60 years his junior at 25.

    Are we really only creeped out because Hutchison's bride is just 16? I admit I wouldn't be bothered if she was 20 so do we raise the age of marriage to at least 20?
    I can only speak for myself, and yes. The rest of them, they're all adults. If they find some common ground, viva la difference, and long live love! But this just feels ewww.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    He's not 34. He's 35 years older than her. He's 51.
    I know that. You have specified 34 in you poll. I just wanted to point out that this age difference is enough to be her father but hardly her grandfather.

    Btw, ancient Greek standards for marriage are as follows:

    man - 35
    woman - 25

    Cheers!

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Canell View Post
    I know that. You have specified 34 in you poll. I just wanted to point out that this age difference is enough to be her father but hardly her grandfather.

    Btw, ancient Greek standards for marriage are as follows:

    man - 35
    woman - 25

    Cheers!
    Close enough. 17 on each can easily be done. Ten years? No big.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    You do come across as young. And I hear ya. My dad's not my bio dad, and my mom's adopted. I did find my bio dad's family, and there is some longevity to be hoped for.
    yeah. in today's world where the sky seems to be falling around every corner....i find immaturity a virtue.
    i've thought about doing a search on the family history. but believe it or not, even at age 42 i feel like it'd
    be insulting to my parents; even though they've both told me to time and again.
    anyway...back on topic....to me it feels funny because she's 16. i mean, i know 16 is only 2 years younger
    than 18, but for some reason there seems a huge difference in my mind. i would've never even considered
    hooking up with my wife if she would've been 16. that's like a sophomore in high school. it would just feel
    "wrong" to me. what would i do? take her to the jr. prom?
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Canell View Post
    I know that. You have specified 34 in you poll. I just wanted to point out that this age difference is enough to be her father but hardly her grandfather.

    Btw, ancient Greek standards for marriage are as follows:

    man - 35
    woman - 25

    Cheers!
    No, he could conceivably be her grandfather. In fact, she would be younger than the two women would need to be allow this to happen. Child born at 17, then grandchild born when person is 34 (child is 17 year old parent), then that would put a person at old enough to be grandparent. In fact, an age difference of 25-30 years is actually enough to think of the older as old enough to be the younger's grandparent.
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by lewstherin View Post
    yeah. in today's world where the sky seems to be falling around every corner....i find immaturity a virtue.
    i've thought about doing a search on the family history. but believe it or not, even at age 42 i feel like it'd
    be insulting to my parents; even though they've both told me to time and again.
    anyway...back on topic....to me it feels funny because she's 16. i mean, i know 16 is only 2 years younger
    than 18, but for some reason there seems a huge difference in my mind. i would've never even considered
    hooking up with my wife if she would've been 16. that's like a sophomore in high school. it would just feel
    "wrong" to me. what would i do? take her to the jr. prom?
    Exactly! And even though somebody up there said well, she's so aged by what she's been through; hell. Okay, so say she dates somebody in his mid 20's. But no, she went 25 years beyond that. And of course I'm wondering, why not Joe Blow hanging out at the corner bar? There's plenty of 50 year-olds without her going for this actor.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    -- The rest of them, they're all adults --snip-- But this just feels ewww.
    How would you legislate or prevent such relationships then? And how would you allow young adults who DO want to marry to have relationships because that's going to happen.

    If she was now 20+ and he was now 55 you wouldn't have a problem?

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Infinite Chaos View Post
    How would you legislate or prevent such relationships then? And how would you allow young adults who DO want to marry to have relationships because that's going to happen.

    If she was now 20+ and he was now 55 you wouldn't have a problem?
    My squickies wouldn't be kicking in anywhere near as much, no.

    No legislating or prevention. A parent signed off, so they are good to go.

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