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Thread: Age gaps - how much is too much

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    There are several kinds of relationships - equal partners, teacher-student, etc. So, it depends.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    I had a friend in the 9th grade who was married - dropped out of school becaus she was pregnant. . . .that age gap and overall situation was unacceptable to me. I oppose child brides. .. but it's not the age of the older individual - rather - the age of the younger of the two and the life they've lived (maturity - big factor)

    However - looking at this particular girl . . . her whole life has been pushed ahead several years - a model, pageant winner - she's been living an adult life for several years - her getting married seems like nothing in comparison to the other things she's done. Some kids graduate college at the age of 16 because htey're exceptional. The bigger issue here is: can she handle it? Is she mature enough? . . I could care less how old HE is.

    Taht being said - my parents **** a brick when they found out my husband was 11 years older than me (and we were both adults - 22 / 33 respectivel when we married)
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Canell View Post
    There are several kinds of relationships - equal partners, teacher-student, etc. So, it depends.
    I'm referring to marriage between a teen and a man almost old enough to be her grandfather.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by Aunt Spiker View Post
    I had a friend in the 9th grade who was married - dropped out of school becaus she was pregnant. . . .that age gap and overall situation was unacceptable to me. I oppose child brides. .. but it's not the age of the older individual - rather - the age of the younger of the two and the life they've lived (maturity - big factor)

    However - looking at this particular girl . . . her whole life has been pushed ahead several years - a model, pageant winner - she's been living an adult life for several years - her getting married seems like nothing in comparison to the other things she's done. Some kids graduate college at the age of 16 because htey're exceptional. The bigger issue here is: can she handle it? Is she mature enough? . . I could care less how old HE is.

    Taht being said - my parents **** a brick when they found out my husband was 11 years older than me (and we were both adults - 22 / 33 respectivel when we married)
    Now, my daughter's first husband was ten years her senior. That went badly, *thank you, alcohol!*. Her husband of one year is two or three years younger than her, and they are fantabulous together.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by lewstherin View Post
    i'm 22 years older than my wife. she was over 18 when i met her, though.
    we have a great marriage. the life span thing is the only real concern. our daughter
    is 18 months old. there's always the unspoken concern of whether or not i'll
    be there to see her graduate and all that. it's like the only downside i see to
    my own situation, regarding the matter.
    It's a logical concern. How's the longevity in your family? Of course, everybody knows that there are no guarantees we're even going to see the sunset tonight, regardless. Witness Ryan Dunn.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    Now, my daughter's first husband was ten years her senior. That went badly, *thank you, alcohol!*. Her husband of one year is two or three years younger than her, and they are fantabulous together.
    REverse for me - alcohol and other drugs trashed my first marriage and he was my same age . .. and my ex boyfriend.

    It's a maturity issue all around - some people are mature and good matches for eachother - others aren't.

    The only issues I've had with our age difference is that he's having issues because of it - his years have caught up to him. . .cancer and all sorts of other things have replaced wild nights and lap dances.
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    It's a logical concern. How's the longevity in your family? Of course, everybody knows that there are no guarantees we're even going to see the sunset tonight, regardless. Witness Ryan Dunn.
    i was adopted at birth. i really don't know the genetic medical history.
    i'm pretty "young" for my age, though. lol. both physically AND mentally.
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    I just found out that an actor I really enjoyed in The Green Mile, Doug Hutchison as Percy Wetmore, was born in 1960. His bride is 16.

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    Age ain't nothing but a number as long as both parties involved meet the legal requirements. That said I would not date anyone 35 years older than me and I wouldn't date and or marry anyone under 18.
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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by lewstherin View Post
    i was adopted at birth. i really don't know the genetic medical history.
    i'm pretty "young" for my age, though. lol. both physically AND mentally.
    You do come across as young. And I hear ya. My dad's not my bio dad, and my mom's adopted. I did find my bio dad's family, and there is some longevity to be hoped for.

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    Re: Age gaps - how much is too much

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    I'm referring to marriage between a teen and a man almost old enough to be her grandfather.
    Come on now, 34 is just the perfect years to marry (for a man that is). But I don't really know if a 16 old girl has the ability to take the right decision. She is still a teenager, for God sake.

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