• This is a political forum that is non-biased/non-partisan and treats every person's position on topics equally. This debate forum is not aligned to any political party. In today's politics, many ideas are split between and even within all the political parties. Often we find ourselves agreeing on one platform but some topics break our mold. We are here to discuss them in a civil political debate. If this is your first visit to our political forums, be sure to check out the RULES. Registering for debate politics is necessary before posting. Register today to participate - it's free!

Do you sleep with your spouse?

Do you sleep with your spouse?

  • Sleep together most/all the time

    Votes: 27 87.1%

  • Sleep together usually, but not always

    Votes: 0 0.0%

  • Sleep together rarely/never

    Votes: 2 6.5%

  • Other

    Votes: 2 6.5%
  • Total voters
    31
We sleep in the same bed, though every few months we usually have about a week where we end up with one of us sleeping in the guest bed. She falls right asleep, I tend to fidget before falling asleep. She sleeps mostly in space, I tend to roll. We both can occasionally snore. I like to start over covers and then go under, she goes under it the whole time. So slowly but surely I generally end up disturbing her sleep and we need that bit of time to just kind of recharge and have some good, deep, long, undisturbed nights of sleep.

During the hottest summer months too, our upstairs gets roasting. She prefers the house pretty warm anyways, but I'm HORRIBLE about the heat. When its REALLY hot I toss and turn all night, constantly trying to kick covers off. A standing fan at medium or large is too loud to let her sleep comfortably, but I love it in the summer to keep me cool. So occasionally I'll go into the other bed and put a fan on blowing right at me and sleep well for a bit until the AC really starts doing better at getting the whole house cool.
 
Last edited:
together....but a king size bed so we both have plenty of room.
 
Zyphlin said:
We sleep in the same bed, though every few months we usually have about a week where we end up with one of us sleeping in the guest bed. She falls right asleep, I tend to fidget before falling asleep. She sleeps mostly in space, I tend to roll. We both can occasionally snore. I like to start over covers and then go under, she goes under it the whole time. So slowly but surely I generally end up disturbing her sleep and we need that bit of time to just kind of recharge and have some good, deep, long, undisturbed nights of sleep.

During the hottest summer months too, our upstairs gets roasting. She prefers the house pretty warm anyways, but I'm HORRIBLE about the heat. When its REALLY hot I toss and turn all night, constantly trying to kick covers off. A standing fan at medium or large is too loud to let her sleep comfortably, but I love it in the summer to keep me cool. So occasionally I'll go into the other bed and put a fan on blowing right at me and sleep well for a bit until the AC really starts doing better at getting the whole house cool.
Click to expand...
Is the fidget a secret term for masturbation? Just kidding but I had to ask.
 
ARealConservative said:
together....but a king size bed so we both have plenty of room.
Click to expand...

We used to have a king sized bed, but we realized that we both slept in the middle cuddled up all night, what's the point? So we got a queen, have more room in the bedroom and no issues. Been that way for almost 20 years now.
 
Cephus said:
We used to have a king sized bed, but we realized that we both slept in the middle cuddled up all night, what's the point? So we got a queen, have more room in the bedroom and no issues. Been that way for almost 20 years now.
Click to expand...

a giant dog sleeps on her other side.
 
okay, what side of the bed to you sleep on when you share the bed?
 
We sleep together, but I understand why some choose not to. I'd get more sleep if we were in separate beds. ;)
 
ARealConservative said:
a giant dog sleeps on her other side.
Click to expand...

This comment made me think of an akward conversation I had with one of my chiefs once. He asked me if I thought it was normal that his wife kicked him out of bed because she said the dogs had to sleep with her so that left no room for him.

I didn't really know how to answer except for the truth but I feel weird telling people that it sounds like their relationship isn't doing well, especially when the person is two steps up from you in the chain of command.
 
I've never been in a relationship. If I had a different room to myself (a study or den or something), I could probably share a bedroom.

Blindfolds, something to plug my ears with, and a firm bed would help too.
 
Last edited:
I don't share a bed well. I'm a restless sleeper and it takes me a long time to get to sleep, and it makes it harder to keep my weapons to hand.
 
CL and I sleep together every night unless he is out of town.
 
ARealConservative said:
a giant dog sleeps on her other side.
Click to expand...

We no longer allow most of the animals in the bedroom. The birds live there, but dogs and cats are now forbidden. We used to have 3 dogs and 2 cats in bed with us every night and we'd wake up sore because we couldn't move. So now... no animals, better sleep, don't have to worry about the cats doing something stupid with the birds.
 
I'm single and have never been married (only 21). However, I do plan on sharing a bed with my spouse unless she has issues with it. My parents have always shared a bed. My grandparents have always shared a bed. However, my maternal grandmother has an identical twin sister, she did not share a bed with her husband. They've always had a strong marriage too (at least from what I know and have observed). It's all about a couple's preference I guess.
 
Viktyr Korimir said:
I don't share a bed well. I'm a restless sleeper and it takes me a long time to get to sleep, and it makes it harder to keep my weapons to hand.
Click to expand...
Except for the weapons you sound like me. I sleep maybe three hours at a time, rarely longer. I've never been a good sleeper.
 
My fiancée and I have been living together for 1.5 years and have shared the bed almost every single night. Only once a week or so, I visit my parents and spend the night there, which is when we don't sleep in the same bed.

But one thing is very important for both of us: Same bed, but separate blankets! Once we tried one single large blanket, and it was horrible.

Another thing is that often, we have different sleep rhythms. Usually, she would fall asleep much earlier than I do, so I am reading or watching TV either in bed where she is sleeping already, or I sit at the computer in the same room. Fortunately, that doesn't bother her and doesn't disturb her sleep, just like I don't wake up when she rises early. If one of us had a much lighter sleep, this would be a problem and we probably should consider different rooms.
 
Last edited:
German guy said:
-- Same bed, but separate blankets! Once we tried one single large blanket, and it was horrible --
Click to expand...

My mind is boggling.

My partner and I always sleep together, even on the nights we've argued. Only night we didn't was when I went downstairs (in my old house) to the loo and came back to find she'd stretched out spreadeagled in the bed, still asleep. I didn't have the heart to wake her and had a horrible night on the sofa downstairs.

Apparently she had nightmares all night so we've agreed I just nudge her next time. I used to snore but ever since I stopped drinking red wine (boohoo) I've gone back to being a quiet sleeper.
 
sleep together, always. I cant sleep without my husband next to me. I hate when he has to go on work related trips, thankfully they are rare.
 
I have a hard time sleeping without my wife next to me. I guess 27 years of marriage will do that. I have a full length body pillow that I take whenever I have to travel.
 
German guy said:
My fiancée and I have been living together for 1.5 years and have shared the bed almost every single night. Only once a week or so, I visit my parents and spend the night there, which is when we don't sleep in the same bed.

But one thing is very important for both of us: Same bed, but separate blankets! Once we tried one single large blanket, and it was horrible.

Another thing is that often, we have different sleep rhythms. Usually, she would fall asleep much earlier than I do, so I am reading or watching TV either in bed where she is sleeping already, or I sit at the computer in the same room. Fortunately, that doesn't bother her and doesn't disturb her sleep, just like I don't wake up when she rises early. If one of us had a much lighter sleep, this would be a problem and we probably should consider different rooms.
Click to expand...
How do you cuddle under separate blankets? That would annoy me laying beside my sweetie and not be able to touch her.
 
My parents slept together for their entire 50 plus years of marriage, even tho' dad snored. But I only remember seeing them hug and kiss once in my life when I was a young girl. However, in their senior years before they died, they used to take walks holding hands. Go figure. Maybe the hand holding was to steady themselves. Or maybe it was their way of showing that they still loved each other. Anyway, it's makes for a nice memory of them.
 
Last edited:
My wife works night shift 3 days a week at the hospital, so I get the bed to myself for 3 nights. I generate insane amounts of body heat, so I like to sleep on top of blankets, maybe under a sheet. She get's annoyed because it messes up the blankets for her if I am on top of them, and I also toss and turn a lot. So every now and then its better for everyone if I go "camp out" on the couch. And I love sleeping on the couch, so it's really a win/win.
 
German guy said:
But one thing is very important for both of us: Same bed, but separate blankets! Once we tried one single large blanket, and it was horrible.

.
Click to expand...

Yup, if either of you is a blanket-hog, or just have very different modes of using the blanket (ie one person wants blanket firmly tucked under mattress, other wants it loose and crumpled), seperate blankets REALLY helps. My wife and I had to do seperate blankets, neither of us could stand the other's blanket-using-habits.
 
Yes most of the time. Only times we don't is because I am up all night debating, lol.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom