1. There are plenty of crappy partners in poor neighborhoods.
2. Powerful leaders are more likely to have crappy behavior exposed than the crackhead on 110th St.
3. Your personal interpretation (this is where a particular variety of feminism lends false ambiance). Like you, I see a marriage/union as a team of equals; however, I would like to note that if either member of the team chooses to take a subordinate role publically, for the good of the team's agenda, that does not mean we ought judge them as subordinate in the relationship.
I agree that stepping-down is only required if a law was broken and I think the criminal act generally needs to be a felony; however, his lying all over the place could be a factor.