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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    Quote Originally Posted by DiAnna View Post
    Did she know, and believe it harmless fun for a man with power who really, really liked having his ego stroked?
    Can I just point out I don't think it was his ego he wanted stroked.
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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    I would probably take emotional cheating a lot harder than physical cheating.

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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    Quote Originally Posted by Redress View Post
    Let me tell you a story. This is all 100 % true. When I played Everquest......
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    I can accept people have different levels of tolerance for certain things in relationships especially when circumstances are extreme.

    That said, this is cheating for me. In my heart I would have no doubt that flirting with via a cam or phone, sending pictures, mutual online masturbation, etc... done by me or my wife would be a serious breach of trust.

    Also I find pornography, topless bars etc to be a similar breach.

    I recognize that others might have a different opinion, and that's fine. But I believe people who do this are weakening/damaging the most important human relationship they can have.

    Having read Weiner's admittance I can assume he agrees with me.
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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    Quote Originally Posted by hazlnut View Post
    If someone goes to a strip club once for a bachelor party or some type of guys night out... and gets a really hot lap dance, then goes home and makes passionate love to his wife... That's not cheating.

    But if someone goes to a strip club weekly, spending the grocery money... I'd say there's a problem.

    Wiener had 6 of these online flings? Was it taking away from time at work? Was it taking away from time at home? Was he looking to take if farther?

    He didn't break the law, but it's hard to say if he broke is vows.
    What a merciful and tolerant position.

    However, on top of this he lied to the media, the American public, congress and the world for a week. He should resign.

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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyDan View Post
    I didn't hear him say she was aware of any of this and not bothered by it. Those would have been the first words out of my mouth in that situation, provided that was the case. And didn't he say he "let her down," or some such?
    Hence the part about being between him and his wife.. Why would hear anything about it?? What part of 'None of your Business.' do you not understand?? Neither him or his wife should have to say anything to you for you to hear..

    You don't see liberals demanding an explinantion from Ensign or Gov. Sanford about their affairs.. Hell, Sanford used tax payer money to fly to another country and see his.. Why is it that republicans don't seem to worried about such things when it is involves a republican.. Did you hear anything from them?? Or did you even ask??

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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    Quote Originally Posted by cAPSLOCK View Post
    Also I find pornography, topless bars etc to be a similar breach.

    I recognize that others might have a different opinion, and that's fine. But I believe people who do this are weakening/damaging the most important human relationship they can have.
    Not disagreeing that you can classify it for yourself as you like. But lots of couples like watching porn together, or even going to topless bars if they both happen to enjoy it. It's a complete fantasy - the actors therein are characters in that fantasy.

    Most people don't literally want to go have sex with the porn star they see in a movie. There's a reason they tend to all look the same - it's a hyper-sexualized model that is supposed to connect to an internal fantasy. It's not really about the person in the movie.

    I don't think this weakens relationships to a couple that's into it. If anything, it may help them be open with each other about what their fantasies are.

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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    ...As for myself as to whether it's cheating, I'm with most of the others - I think it depends on the rules of your relationship.

    There's also a difference between old-school chat cybering, and cam cybering. And a further difference between a cyber "fling" and a sustained cyber "relationship."

    It really depends.

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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    Quote Originally Posted by BDBoop View Post
    Would he then be - in my estimation, you don't do anything behind your partner's back that you wouldn't feel perfectly comfortable doing in front of their face. Is that naive?
    That's not naive. That's a big part of how I define "cheating"; if you have to hide it, it is. To me, fidelity is about loyalty, not sex. If you have put something else above your spouse and your marriage, whatever it is, you have cheated; you have betrayed the trust your spouse has held in you and broken your vows of marriage. In this case, it doesn't seem like there was much going on beyond exchanging pictures; it's somewhere between pornography and adultery, and much much closer to the former.

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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    Quote Originally Posted by pbrauer View Post
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    Sorry, its not a black and white issue to me, it comes down to how one defines 'cheating.' Having a physical sexual relationship outside of your marriage is serious and may warrant divorce. I don't believe 'sexting' rises to that level, but that is me.
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    Re: Is cyber sex/sexting "cheating"

    he tried to lie about it when he got caught....he was cheating.
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