I wouldn't personally sign a petition to change this aspect of flag code, but it does seem like an area where norms are changing. If you really don't like it, work to change it. I was serious when I said you should write your Congressman. You and I don't get to define flag etiquette, Congress does, and ours is not to reason why, ours is to simply abide by it.
So until that day that you guys get together and change the code by act of Congress or other means, I must maintain that if you violate flag code, and you do it knowingly and willfully, even if you think you know better, it is disrespectful, period.