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When I had just moved to a large city, I thought it might be nice to start a meet up group to just meet once a week and talk, discuss things, and also help each other with issues and small things like a dead battery or need help moving a couch. I called in the " Chain Link Group of Friends" where each of us would be a link in the chain.
OK, I start it going, had 12 people sign up, and set a date for our first meeting at my place.
I got some munchies and had 8 of the 12 show up. 7 women and 1 man.
The meeting went well and was eye opening for me, because I did not see things the way these women did, and it was an education. To me a dead battery is a pain in the ass and an inconvenience, but to women it could be life threatening depending on where and the time of day. I had never thought about that. So for the next meeting I was planning on some basic car care tips and tricks to fix that.
We all say bye, and agree to meet again in two weeks back at my place.
NOPE. Absolutely ZERO people had any interest in being "friends" with anyone else, and they all only wanted to know what they could get out of the deal rather than showing what they could offer the group. Everyone preferred to be isolated and be a lone wolf rather than have friends they could depend on.
It kinda shook my faith in human nature.
OK, so what is the deal? Why do we as a society prefer to stick it out alone rather than extend ourselves to a group?
I think that alone is a serious indicator at how we are declining as a society. We all seem to only want what we can get out of it, and that is all.
That's not good.
Any suggestions as to how we as a society can become more giving of ourselves, and less selfish?
NOTE: One "member" was a bot, and another was a completely neurotic 20-something young lady that never got past the first interview. She had just got back from Alaska where she went to be with a shaman and his wife for spiritual growth and was shocked when he tried to have sex with her. Ya think? The rest were fairly mature people in their 30's to 50's.
OK, I start it going, had 12 people sign up, and set a date for our first meeting at my place.
I got some munchies and had 8 of the 12 show up. 7 women and 1 man.
The meeting went well and was eye opening for me, because I did not see things the way these women did, and it was an education. To me a dead battery is a pain in the ass and an inconvenience, but to women it could be life threatening depending on where and the time of day. I had never thought about that. So for the next meeting I was planning on some basic car care tips and tricks to fix that.
We all say bye, and agree to meet again in two weeks back at my place.
NOPE. Absolutely ZERO people had any interest in being "friends" with anyone else, and they all only wanted to know what they could get out of the deal rather than showing what they could offer the group. Everyone preferred to be isolated and be a lone wolf rather than have friends they could depend on.
It kinda shook my faith in human nature.
OK, so what is the deal? Why do we as a society prefer to stick it out alone rather than extend ourselves to a group?
I think that alone is a serious indicator at how we are declining as a society. We all seem to only want what we can get out of it, and that is all.
That's not good.
Any suggestions as to how we as a society can become more giving of ourselves, and less selfish?
NOTE: One "member" was a bot, and another was a completely neurotic 20-something young lady that never got past the first interview. She had just got back from Alaska where she went to be with a shaman and his wife for spiritual growth and was shocked when he tried to have sex with her. Ya think? The rest were fairly mature people in their 30's to 50's.
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