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The danger is that parents being overly restrictive and disrespectful of privacy can lead to rebellion and worse behavior.
Spying =/= being overly restrictive. Spying is only used for watching out for things that will get the child into physical danger. It's not to be used to pester the kids for piddly stuff like drinking while underage. But it should be used for major stuff like drinking and driving or to prevent things like what was shown in the two videos that are in the thread.
Kids will get into trouble. That is a fact of life. You cannot stop it no matter how hard you try. But you can do everything that you can to keep your child from getting themselves raped or killed. That is what spying is to be used for. Nothing more, nothing less. There are other things that a parent can do in order to help and/or teach a kid on how to properly go through life. And sometimes that means letting the child get into trouble as getting into trouble may very well be the very thing that will teach them most effectively.
Its funny. Everyone in here is acting like those parents that spy on their kids do so in order to act on every little indiscretion. While some parents may very well be like that not all parents are. There is a proper place for spying on ones kid. But, it is not the end all be all of parenting.