Every time we look around in a poor neighborhood we see people with their underwear sticking out of their pants.
Every time we go into a rich neighborhood we see people who are stuck up like **** and have no respect for anything.
Even the middle class is being affected by this although to a lesser extent.
Why?
The best answer I was able to come up with is the idea that the values in which we trust our parents, the government, and our neighbors to give our children aren't being given. As Liberal as I am welfare and a dependent society certainly aggravates the situation, but that isn't what this thread is about.
How come we are so afraid to help discipline our children? Why are parents so negligent that when they see their kids dragging along with their shorts down to their ankles they do nothing? How come when a kid sneaks out at night to do whatever the hell he does and he comes back the parents might scold him and "ground" him but then two minutes later don't give a ****? Why? How come schools do nothing to help discipline the children, wheres the paddle. There are so many issues but at the end of the day society has become so protective and excluded that the children are never exposed to anything, they think the world is just them and their city, or them and their sagging shorts. No one even tries anymore to discipline their children.
When my dad was in Ecuador and he misbehaved and a neighbor saw, he would get beaten (which I disagree with) and then they would call his parents and then he goes home and gets beaten again (again I don't necessarily agree with this). Now I'm not trying to say that beating is the answer to disciplining children, but what I'm trying to get at is that the whole community should be involved to help discipline children and input values of respect, responsibility, and hard work. Even the schools would discipline the children and then call up the parents who again disciplined the children. What happened to everyone in the community working to create a better generation?
I walk through the streets of Bridgeport (Connecticut's armpit so to speak) sometimes and I see children on their bikes out alone when they're only 10 years old, hanging out with drunkards thinking they're cool. No values. Or when a teenager is spray-painting graffiti on property, no respect. Or when I speak to a minority (of which I partially come from, my dad being a minority himself who was discriminated against) as to why he/she is failing, or why they're giving up the fight to work hard and be a good citizen. And the response I get, "OH WELL!!! The white guy was bringing me and my father and grandfather down and now I can't do anything!". No Personal responsibility.
Or when I read magazines and I see articles talking about women in college who get raped, and the staggering numbers of rape in campus. But as I scan through the article not a single sentence ever says something about some (not all, I'm not trying to be mean. Only some women) women going to parties, getting drunk, acting crazy, and then getting raped. The guy should go to jail but the woman should also go and do some soul searching as to why she ever even got into those situations. But sometimes they don't, they just go to parties again and get drunk, no personal responsibility.
Everything traces back to the community being unable to instill the traditional great values of this nation to the children. Those values of hard work, respect, personal responsibility. What happened? Welfare is certainly an issue, but there is no way that something like that can cause this absolute degradation of values within the American society. What. Happened. How did parents, schools, neighbors, go from teaching their children values or at least TRYING to teach their kids values, to not even trying at all. To not caring when the kid tries a cigarette at 13 years old. To not caring when their kid comes back home from a friends house at midnight when they're only 13-14. To not caring when their kid walks around with his ass sticking out to the public because he doesn't have a belt. Something went wrong, maybe we can discuss how this happened.
Even on this forum during the castle doctrine debate I saw with my very own eyes someone say "yeah well when I was his age I was stupid too smiley face", LIKE IT DIDN'T MATTER! WHY! We laugh now, but later on we see what the effects are on society, and we don't laugh anymore.
It's not a social class thing, it's not (entirely) a welfare thing, so what is it? I can't just be pessimistic, because I SEE these things, everywhere. In every city. I just want to know why.