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What do you think about flattery?
Some use it profusely to wrap many people around their fingers.
At times it is genuine, othertimes... not so much. Whatever the case it's always strategic.
Is it dangerous? What happens when a man... or woman... flatters a boat-load of people? Sometimes it's simply used as a means of self-preservation, while othertimes it's all about power, influence, and control.
I've read a book. It's called You're too Kind by Richard Stengel. Cover to cover. It highlights the history, concept, the everything about flattery. There was a person I knew here who was very adept in this, so I took interest in her behavior and sought to study more of it. Some of the things I can say is that it may actually be part of who we are as animals: chimpanzees definitely exhibit behaviors of flattery whether to woo a female or appease a dominant male. The Athenians despised it iirc and practiced parhesia, which is very blunt, frank speach.
Is it bad? From Plutarch:
"Of all wild animals, the tyrant is the worst; of all tame ones, the flatterer."
Do you think flattery is a social lubricant that is part of the social contract? "If I say something nice about you, you say something nice about me."
What do you honesly think about flattery?
Some use it profusely to wrap many people around their fingers.
At times it is genuine, othertimes... not so much. Whatever the case it's always strategic.
Is it dangerous? What happens when a man... or woman... flatters a boat-load of people? Sometimes it's simply used as a means of self-preservation, while othertimes it's all about power, influence, and control.
I've read a book. It's called You're too Kind by Richard Stengel. Cover to cover. It highlights the history, concept, the everything about flattery. There was a person I knew here who was very adept in this, so I took interest in her behavior and sought to study more of it. Some of the things I can say is that it may actually be part of who we are as animals: chimpanzees definitely exhibit behaviors of flattery whether to woo a female or appease a dominant male. The Athenians despised it iirc and practiced parhesia, which is very blunt, frank speach.
Is it bad? From Plutarch:
"Of all wild animals, the tyrant is the worst; of all tame ones, the flatterer."
Do you think flattery is a social lubricant that is part of the social contract? "If I say something nice about you, you say something nice about me."
What do you honesly think about flattery?