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What Does It Mean To You?

Happiness is the love of life and others. Once you learn to do this really well, then all the other things that make you feel good are just icing on the cake.
 
Happiness is when you're warm, dry, fed, and loved. That's all any of us really need. Humans tend to over think the happiness thing.

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I consider myself to be in a state of happiness when it feels like things are going OK to good on average. The positive is outweighing the negative in life, or at least it feels that way for that period of time. As for what things make me happy, the list is long. Everything from a cool breeze to a lover's embrace, especially when the timing is right.
 
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lizzie said:
It ends when you let it go. You let it go, when you realize that it's an attitude, rather than something that is happening to you. You realize that it's an attitude when you figure out that you are okay, no matter where you are, who you are with, or what kind of **** life is throwing in your direction.
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It took me awhile with that one and I still trip occasionaly.
 
TheGirlNextDoor said:
What does it mean to be happy?
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It can only be framed in a minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day concept. No one (sane) is globally happy all the time.

Message: capture the minute and appreciate the happy moments when you can...
 
TheGirlNextDoor said:
What does it mean to be happy?
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I think this quote from a very good movie Rocky Balboa sums it up nicely.

Rocky Balboa: I'd hold you up to say to your mother, "this kid's gonna be the best kid in the world. This kid's gonna be somebody better than anybody I ever knew." And you grew up good and wonderful. It was great just watching you, every day was like a privilige. Then the time come for you to be your own man and take on the world, and you did. But somewhere along the line, you changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you're no good. And when things got hard, you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that! I'm always gonna love you no matter what. No matter what happens. You're my son and you're my blood. You're the best thing in my life. But until you start believing in yourself, ya ain't gonna have a life. Don't forget to visit your mother.

One my favorite movie quotes of all time. And so damn true.

Happiness is getting up in the morning looking life square in the eye with a smile on your lips. And asking the question "I'm ready to dance. You?"
 
Cole said:
It can only be framed in a minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day concept. No one (sane) is globally happy all the time.

Message: capture the minute and appreciate the happy moments when you can...
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Yes, it's a transient feeling that lives in the here and now. I lived much of my life fairly happy but didn't always realize it until I reflected on it.

It's such a simple question, like what's the meaning of life or love but incredibly diverse in answers.
 
PirateMk1 said:
I think this quote from a very good movie Rocky Balboa sums it up nicely.

Rocky Balboa: I'd hold you up to say to your mother, "this kid's gonna be the best kid in the world. This kid's gonna be somebody better than anybody I ever knew." And you grew up good and wonderful. It was great just watching you, every day was like a privilige. Then the time come for you to be your own man and take on the world, and you did. But somewhere along the line, you changed. You stopped being you. You let people stick a finger in your face and tell you you're no good. And when things got hard, you started looking for something to blame, like a big shadow. Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get it and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done! Now if you know what you're worth then go out and get what you're worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain't where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain't you! You're better than that! I'm always gonna love you no matter what. No matter what happens. You're my son and you're my blood. You're the best thing in my life. But until you start believing in yourself, ya ain't gonna have a life. Don't forget to visit your mother.

One my favorite movie quotes of all time. And so damn true.

Happiness is getting up in the morning looking life square in the eye with a smile on your lips. And asking the question "I'm ready to dance. You?"
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Life is the game you can never win. You were born to lose it and yet if you never give up completely, did you lose?

I asked my dad once what I can do to make a difference in the world. And he said, "try and leave it a little better place is the best you can do." I set out to change the world but the world ends up changing us.
 
I'm not sure, but I know I am when I'm with her.
 
I'll share a secret it took me a long time to understand and implement: if you want to be happy, don't dwell on the bad, dwell on the good.

It's easy to worry and fret and think about past wrongs and future uncertainties, and get anxious or angry or depressed. The mind tends to chew on these things like a dog with a bone.

You have to let go and turn it loose. I try to "give these things to the Lord", but however you do it you have to let go.


Instead, whenever you come upon any reason or means of being happy or joyous, here's what you do: you bury your face in it like a cat with a bowl of cream, and don't fret or worry about anything else until you've licked up every drop of joy you can find. Take joy in the good of the moment.

Your problems will still be there afterward... but maybe you'll feel a little better about them. It's better than letting your worries and bad memories ruin your moments of happiness.
 
I have had moments of happiness, but it never seems to last long. I'm getting to the point where I'm even hesitant to enjoy those singular moments of happiness for fear that it will quickly leave and I will be back in the dark hole from which I came. I know a lot of it is "mind over matter" and to enjoy the little moments in life - but sometimes it's hard.

Part of my problem personally, is that I'm very cynical and hard. My children are the only thing in the here and now that make me happy. I have moments in my job that I'm happy... or content. I don't expect rainbows and unicorns; but I want more from life than to just be living moment to moment, looking for something that doesn't exist. I'm worry I will overlook it and miss out completely. Another part of me worries I will read too much into something and be devastated like so many times in the past.

I guess I'm my own worst enemy.
 
ı feel happy when my beloved ones are around myself .but what is important is to avoid being unhappy ..

other people may acquire the happiness through different ways such as buying a new car , hanging out alone or drugs.

but it is not happiness.. firstly your inner world must feel happy

if I come across a real love one day and begin to work in a job I like ,i may feel happier..
 
TheGirlNextDoor said:
I have had moments of happiness, but it never seems to last long. I'm getting to the point where I'm even hesitant to enjoy those singular moments of happiness for fear that it will quickly leave and I will be back in the dark hole from which I came. I know a lot of it is "mind over matter" and to enjoy the little moments in life - but sometimes it's hard.

Part of my problem personally, is that I'm very cynical and hard. My children are the only thing in the here and now that make me happy. I have moments in my job that I'm happy... or content. I don't expect rainbows and unicorns; but I want more from life than to just be living moment to moment, looking for something that doesn't exist. I'm worry I will overlook it and miss out completely. Another part of me worries I will read too much into something and be devastated like so many times in the past.

I guess I'm my own worst enemy.
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Most of us are our own worst enemy, one way or another. Maybe a good start is learning how to be your own best friend. :)
 
Soon, we'll be going around wishing each other a "happy new year", as if happiness were something to be anticipated in the future. No, happiness is in the present, or it is illusory.

Yesterday is only a memory, and tomorrow is only a dream, but today well lived makes every yesterday a memory of happiness, and every tomorrow a dream of hope. That's a quote from somewhere I read some time ago. Maybe someone will recognize it.
 
TheGirlNextDoor said:
I have had moments of happiness, but it never seems to last long. I'm getting to the point where I'm even hesitant to enjoy those singular moments of happiness for fear that it will quickly leave and I will be back in the dark hole from which I came. I know a lot of it is "mind over matter" and to enjoy the little moments in life - but sometimes it's hard.

Part of my problem personally, is that I'm very cynical and hard. My children are the only thing in the here and now that make me happy. I have moments in my job that I'm happy... or content. I don't expect rainbows and unicorns; but I want more from life than to just be living moment to moment, looking for something that doesn't exist. I'm worry I will overlook it and miss out completely. Another part of me worries I will read too much into something and be devastated like so many times in the past.

I guess I'm my own worst enemy.
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Wish i could say i feel your pain. But have no idea what your particular issues are rooted in. Hope you find the light soon.

But it (finding/maintaining happiness) is hard for most everybody. Believe it is easy to be misled that those around us are more content/confident/stable than ourselves because all we get to see is the persona they publicly present. We all carry our clouds/burdens in different ways.

The efforts most challenging in my life are letting go of guilt/regret/pain from the past. Can be crippling if one lets it dominate their thoughts emotions. Simple meditation is a great way to help flush those poisons from your mind. Rinse. Repeat. Be happier. <smile>
 
Goshin said:
I'll share a secret it took me a long time to understand and implement: if you want to be happy, don't dwell on the bad, dwell on the good.

It's easy to worry and fret and think about past wrongs and future uncertainties, and get anxious or angry or depressed. The mind tends to chew on these things like a dog with a bone.

You have to let go and turn it loose. I try to "give these things to the Lord", but however you do it you have to let go.


Instead, whenever you come upon any reason or means of being happy or joyous, here's what you do: you bury your face in it like a cat with a bowl of cream, and don't fret or worry about anything else until you've licked up every drop of joy you can find. Take joy in the good of the moment.

Your problems will still be there afterward... but maybe you'll feel a little better about them. It's better than letting your worries and bad memories ruin your moments of happiness.
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Amen. :clap:
 
TheGirlNextDoor said:
Part of my problem personally, is that I'm very cynical and hard. My children are the only thing in the here and now that make me happy. I have moments in my job that I'm happy... or content. I don't expect rainbows and unicorns; but I want more from life than to just be living moment to moment, looking for something that doesn't exist. I'm worry I will overlook it and miss out completely. Another part of me worries I will read too much into something and be devastated like so many times in the past.

I guess I'm my own worst enemy.
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I can relate to that, as I used to be much the same way. I was afraid of being happy, because I was waiting for the next axe to fall. Imo, the secret is in learning to really like yourself, and accept your faults, by finding the value in them. We all have our coping mechanisms, and (imo), one of the hardest to overcome is feeling like you are deficient in some way, and unable to meet the expectations of yourself and others. I am not saying that you should believe yourself to be superior to others, but that you should know that you are just as important as anyone else, and that to give love and accept others as they are, you must be able to accept and love yourself. I honestly think this is one of the hardest obstacles to overcome, as we are taught from an early age to be self-sacrificing and put ourselves in second place. This seems to teach children that they don't have true value just for what they are- the imperfect child(ren) who should always try to please. I have an excellent book to recommend that I'll pm to you, if you're interested. It gave me more insight into the human psyche and the motivations in human behavior, than any other single source I've ever found. It literally saved my sanity, after years of intermittent misery.
 
To wake up every morning, to love what I am doing, to have the right people in my life, to be healthy, and to be secure financially.
 
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