Spectator99
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I think the initial choice has to come from within the person, but you can do a lot to make that choice more appealing. For example, you can really shower your aunt with love and support and try to make her life a lot more worthwhile, so that she perceives more value in trying to extend her life. Then if she does make the choice to quit, you can offer her as much positive support as she needs to make it through the tough parts.
I say that because I once quit smoking for 10 years. What motivated me was meeting a man who was a non-smoker and who treated me well and wanted to marry me. His presence in my life made the future seem a lot more appealing, and so I had a lot more reason to want to extend my life. I successfully quit and maintained myself as a non-smoker for 10 years.
Unfortunately, the marriage ended in divorce and once my future went back to being bleak, I went back to smoking. Many people have gone through this same type of experience where they quit smoking for years and then went back to it at some later point in life. Few people talk about it, though, because they get so much backlash from others when they talk about their experience.
I think love can motivate people to change for the better, but you have to be positive. Nagging, shaming, manipulating, blackmailing and all those other negative strategies will only drive the person away and possibly reinforce their determination to rebel against your perceived coercion.
I say that because I once quit smoking for 10 years. What motivated me was meeting a man who was a non-smoker and who treated me well and wanted to marry me. His presence in my life made the future seem a lot more appealing, and so I had a lot more reason to want to extend my life. I successfully quit and maintained myself as a non-smoker for 10 years.
Unfortunately, the marriage ended in divorce and once my future went back to being bleak, I went back to smoking. Many people have gone through this same type of experience where they quit smoking for years and then went back to it at some later point in life. Few people talk about it, though, because they get so much backlash from others when they talk about their experience.
I think love can motivate people to change for the better, but you have to be positive. Nagging, shaming, manipulating, blackmailing and all those other negative strategies will only drive the person away and possibly reinforce their determination to rebel against your perceived coercion.