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repeter

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I like a girl. I am currently 5,000 miles away at Harvard for the summer , and I can't talk to her either, because I only have her brother's cell number. He's my friend though. I am thoroughly getting screwed over thinking about her. In class, my prof will be leacturing about the elasticity of the product: laptops and I'll be thinking, " she is so beautiful." I can't concentrate on anything, and I really need help.

Should I forget her, or should I try to talk to her, and satisfy my feelings? Please help, I don't want to screw up my one chance at Harvard.
 
repeter said:
I like a girl.
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I am genuinely glad to hear that. :mrgreen:

Should I forget her, or should I try to talk to her, and satisfy my feelings? Please help, I don't want to screw up my one chance at Harvard.
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Do you think talking to her on the phone would diminish or increase your distraction? My best guess would be increase...you'd want more, such as to see her in person, but hey it is your head not mine, therefore your call.

If you just have to talk to her, call her brother, ask to speak to her, and see if she'll give you her own number. If she won't, then it is time to forget her.

As for Harvard...Focus, Daniel-san, focus. :mrgreen:
 
Goshin said:
I am genuinely glad to hear that. :mrgreen:
Do you think talking to her on the phone would diminish or increase your distraction? My best guess would be increase...you'd want more, such as to see her in person, but hey it is your head not mine, therefore your call.

If you just have to talk to her, call her brother, ask to speak to her, and see if she'll give you her own number. If she won't, then it is time to forget her.

As for Harvard...Focus, Daniel-san, focus. :mrgreen:
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Glad to hear that

Well, the way I work is once I talk once or twice, I get emotionally satisfied, regardless of the outcome. I've experienced it before, so I hope it still applies.

But...how do I phrase it so it isn't awkward? I haven't called her brother since school ended, and he graduated this year. I know I should have, but I've been so damn busy....
Could I try talking to him for sometime, and hope she hears him talking, asks who it is, and says she wants to talk? Or should I just talk with him, and then eventually ask him about her?

I try to focus here, but I just can't. I don't want to say I'm in love, but it feels like something just short of it.....I don't know, call it obsession....
 
repeter said:
Glad to hear that

Well, the way I work is once I talk once or twice, I get emotionally satisfied, regardless of the outcome. I've experienced it before, so I hope it still applies.

But...how do I phrase it so it isn't awkward? I haven't called her brother since school ended, and he graduated this year. I know I should have, but I've been so damn busy....
Could I try talking to him for sometime, and hope she hears him talking, asks who it is, and says she wants to talk? Or should I just talk with him, and then eventually ask him about her?

I try to focus here, but I just can't. I don't want to say I'm in love, but it feels like something just short of it.....I don't know, call it obsession....
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Call her brother tonight and shoot the breeze for half an hour or whatever seems typical.

Wait a couple of days, and call him again. Talk a while, say half an hour... THEN see if his sister is around and ask if she wants to talk to you.

Something like this...

"Blah blah, yeah that guy was wacked, blah blah, hahaha...yeah man good to talk to you too...OH, hey, by the way...is your sister around? I wanted to say hey to her too."

:mrgreen:
 
Goshin said:
Call her brother tonight and shoot the breeze for half an hour or whatever seems typical.

Wait a couple of days, and call him again. Talk a while, say half an hour... THEN see if his sister is around and ask if she wants to talk to you.

Something like this...

"Blah blah, yeah that guy was wacked, blah blah, hahaha...yeah man good to talk to you too...OH, hey, by the way...is your sister around? I wanted to say hey to her too."

:mrgreen:
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You know, that would work....Thank you So Much. I'll have to call him tomorrow, because I got to go to the library and study right now. Thanks again. I'll tell you what happens after the first call.
 
repeter said:
You know, that would work....Thank you So Much. I'll have to call him tomorrow, because I got to go to the library and study right now. Thanks again. I'll tell you what happens after the first call.
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You're welcome. Experience, Grasshoppa, experience. :mrgreen:

Seriously, best of luck there, young Romeo. :rock


PS: IF it works and you start talking to this chick, don't forget to call her brother once in a while and maintain the friendship. You want him on your side, you don't want him thinking he's nothing more than a vehicle to get to his sister, k?
 
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RightinNYC said:
1) Bone a chick at BC
2) ...?
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Oh God hell no repete don't take this person advice go over to Commanwealth Blvd. and hit up some of the hotties from NorthEastern or Tufts Medical.

Also you might want to try this thing called Facebook I'm sure you have heard of it :rofl:rofl
 
Goshin said:
You're welcome. Experience, Grasshoppa, experience. :mrgreen:

Seriously, best of luck there, young Romeo. :rock


PS: IF it works and you start talking to this chick, don't forget to call her brother once in a while and maintain the friendship. You want him on your side, you don't want him thinking he's nothing more than a vehicle to get to his sister, k?
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Yeah, I'll try not to be an asshole to him. I got back from the library about 7:30 Pacific time (10:30 for me). Too late... :3oops: I feel like I'm going to crap my pants when I think of what I'm going to do tomorrow.
 
Lay it all on the line. Forget phones, computers and the Internet. Hand write a love letter. Be romantic, sincere and playful. No down in the mouth or desperate stuff. Give her something to hold, be proud of and wooed by. Paper to read over and over in bed.

Mainly don't be lazy. You're Harvard. Show it. If you can't win her in a love letter maybe you're not Harvard material.

Seriously, send her a love letter on love letter stationairy. No phone call. No emails. No Hallmark cards. No beating around the bush. Do it the old fashioned way.
 
Scorpion89 said:
Oh God hell no repete don't take this person advice go over to Commanwealth Blvd. and hit up some of the hotties from NorthEastern or Tufts Medical.

Also you might want to try this thing called Facebook I'm sure you have heard of it :rofl:rofl
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Facebook? What the hell is that? ;) I actually don't have one, but if I absolutely need one, I can get it...

Okay, where is this Commanwealth Blvd again? :)
 
joko104 said:
Lay it all on the line. Forget phones, computers and the Internet. Hand write a love letter. Be romantic, sincere and playful. No down in the mouth or desperate stuff. Give her something to hold, be proud of and wooed by. Paper to read over and over in bed.

Mainly don't be lazy. You're Harvard. Show it. If you can't win her in a love letter maybe you're not Harvard material.

Seriously, send her a love letter on love letter stationairy. No phone call. No emails. No Hallmark cards. No beating around the bush. Do it the old fashioned way.
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No disrespect, but this sounds like pretty much the worst advice I can imagine.

You don't know this girl well enough to have her cell number. If she gets a letter from you on stationary professing your love, she will be sketched out and she will tell her brother that you're a creepy dude.

The absolute best thing you can do is forget about her for now. Long distance is tough even when you're in a serious relationship. Long distance when you're not even dating is impossible.

Go out in the city, enjoy yourself, and if you're still into her when you go back west, talk to her then.

(Unsolicited advice for going out in the city: Don't mention Harvard. It gets really old really quick, and won't impress chicks in the way that you're hoping it will.)
 
joko104 said:
Lay it all on the line. Forget phones, computers and the Internet. Hand write a love letter. Be romantic, sincere and playful. No down in the mouth or desperate stuff. Give her something to hold, be proud of and wooed by. Paper to read over and over in bed.

Mainly don't be lazy. You're Harvard. Show it. If you can't win her in a love letter maybe you're not Harvard material.

Seriously, send her a love letter on love letter stationairy. No phone call. No emails. No Hallmark cards. No beating around the bush. Do it the old fashioned way.
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I don't know where she lives, and I probably will not stalk her back to her house. Thanks though hehe, but I frankly don't have the balls to do that.
 
repeter said:
Facebook? What the hell is that? ;) I actually don't have one, but if I absolutely need one, I can get it...

Okay, where is this Commanwealth Blvd again? :)
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Wait a second you live in Beantown and don't know where Commanwealth Ave is :shock:

You do know where Boston Commons is I hope well head towards the Swan Pond after crossing the Bridge go by the Washington Monument cross the Street and keep walking to you get to the Virgin Atlantic Super Store that is Commanwealth Blvd.

If you need instruction on ow to get around Beantown just ask:2wave:
 
Scorpion89 said:
Wait a second you live in Beantown and don't know where Commanwealth Ave is :shock:

You do know where Boston Commons is I hope well head towards the Swan Pond after crossing the Bridge go by the Washington Monument cross the Street and keep walking to you get to the Virgin Atlantic Super Store that is Commanwealth Blvd.

If you need instruction on ow to get around Beantown just ask:2wave:
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How much are strippers around there? :mrgreen:
 
Scorpion89 said:
That's the Combat Zone which is between China Town and Theater Districts :2razz:
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OOO, it sounds fun. Funny thing about Harvard, they know they can't stop all these horny teen's from having sex, so they aren't against it, but they are against unsafe sex, where girls go to Harvard, and come back pregnant :).
 
RightinNYC said:
The absolute best thing you can do is forget about her for now. Long distance is tough even when you're in a serious relationship. Long distance when you're not even dating is impossible.

Go out in the city, enjoy yourself, and if you're still into her when you go back west, talk to her then.
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This is the best advice I read here.

You sound kinda obsessed about her. Are you just crushing or what? As he said, best thing is to just take your mind of her and enjoy what you have at your hands right now.
 
Ok, I called her brother, but he was at work. I told him to call me whenever, so he might call me back later. I guess this is step one, eh?
 
americanwoman said:
This is the best advice I read here.

You sound kinda obsessed about her. Are you just crushing or what? As he said, best thing is to just take your mind of her and enjoy what you have at your hands right now.
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Thats my problem though, my mind wanders all the time, regardless of what I'm doing. I normally don't have to think very hard to do things, so in the back of my brain, I'm kind of wandering off....and of course my teenage brain wanders in....that direction. Not sexually though.
 
repeter said:
OOO, it sounds fun. Funny thing about Harvard, they know they can't stop all these horny teen's from having sex, so they aren't against it, but they are against unsafe sex, where girls go to Harvard, and come back pregnant :).
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See, this is what I'm talking about bro. This is in no way a harvard-specific thing, so there's no need to add that detail in. This will not win you any friends in Boston (or anywhere, really).

At least have the common courtesy to say "just outside of boston" :lol:
 
Forget her! Women come and go, a Harvard education is forever. You'll pick up more women with that degree than you will without it.
 
RightinNYC said:
See, this is what I'm talking about bro. This is in no way a harvard-specific thing, so there's no need to add that detail in. This will not win you any friends in Boston (or anywhere, really).

At least have the common courtesy to say "just outside of boston" :lol:
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The thing is I'm appaled that a Harvard SUMMER SCHOOL thing allows it. people are like 15 and 16...
 
repeter said:
The thing is I'm appaled that a Harvard SUMMER SCHOOL thing allows it. people are like 15 and 16...
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So you think it should be the school's job to prevent young adults from having sex?
 
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