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Could you work with your spouse?

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Could you work with your spouse?

Some do, and it's just fine. Some, however, would have an issue with it. What category would you fall in?

Personally, I don't think I could. Not that I don't love my wife or enjoy spending time with her, because I do, but pretty much 24/7 is too much of a good thing.
 
radcen said:
Could you work with your spouse?

Some do, and it's just fine. Some, however, would have an issue with it. What category would you fall in?

Personally, I don't think I could. Not that I don't love my wife or enjoy spending time with her, because I do, but pretty much 24/7 is too much of a good thing.
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I have two employees who not only work together, but want the same schedule so they can do so. I give them what they want.

I can't imagine a scenario in which I would want to do that, myself, but to each their own as they say.
 
radcen said:
Could you work with your spouse?

Some do, and it's just fine. Some, however, would have an issue with it. What category would you fall in?

Personally, I don't think I could. Not that I don't love my wife or enjoy spending time with her, because I do, but pretty much 24/7 is too much of a good thing.
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Actually, my wife and I have worked together for years caring first for medically-fragile Foster children in our home, and now an elderly lady. But then, I think we're a different kind of couple. To be able to work together as we do takes a lot of humility, especially in that while I have the last word in many things, when it comes to their care, she does and should have the last word. It takes a clear understanding of who is in charge of what...and again, humility. I think it would be difficult for a man who's over-testosteroned to be able to do this. It's not easy, but it's very much worth it, especially since we were able to be at home for our growing boys.
 
While i firmly believe that communication, real communication, is the key for a good relationship...

That being said, I've never been in a good relationship, and have been in many abusive ones. So I have trust issues and don't feel like I can be open and honest without her being a manipulative witch of some sort who always marginalizes how I feel.

So no, i don't feel i can communicate with her in any meaningful capacity.
 
Did so for about 6 months before we got married and she found steady employment.

Is it easy trying to be the boss of your Wife...Hell no.
 
radcen said:
Could you work with your spouse?

Some do, and it's just fine. Some, however, would have an issue with it. What category would you fall in?

Personally, I don't think I could. Not that I don't love my wife or enjoy spending time with her, because I do, but pretty much 24/7 is too much of a good thing.
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I worked with my husband for 20 years. It was challenging. It would have been easier had we had the same work ethic. We did not. That took patience and fortitude.

We didn't have children. IMO, children would have made it untenable for us and very unfair to our children.
 
While we are not married (for financial reasons), I do live with and (sort of?) work with my girlfriend. She drives me to/from job sites and material stores, does the billing and I do the estimating, bidding and the on site (handyman) work. She has gotten quite good at backing up the small (5' x 8') utility trailer. Most of my time spent working (on the actual job sites) is on my own or occasionally with temporary hired help; it is very rare that I ask her to help me on a job site but sometimes (about once per month) we do (commercial) clean-up jobs together.
 
MaggieD said:
I worked with my husband for 20 years. It was challenging. It would have been easier had we had the same work ethic. We did not. That took patience and fortitude.
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Yeah -- it must tough being with a workaholic when you're a party girl at heart. :mrgreen:
 
Absolutely not, anyone that says otherwise is insane.
 
No, I couldn't. We both have home offices, right now he's in his and I'm in mine. We pass each other in the hall or in the kitchen but stay very separate during the days. I think it's better that way. We enjoy each other at night.
 
radcen said:
Could you work with your spouse?

Some do, and it's just fine. Some, however, would have an issue with it. What category would you fall in?

Personally, I don't think I could. Not that I don't love my wife or enjoy spending time with her, because I do, but pretty much 24/7 is too much of a good thing.
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Not even at gunpoint.
 
I also feel that I wouldn't be married at all if I couldn't work with my wife. why bother getting married at all if all you're going to do is argue?

Sorry, but I hate fighting to no end. nothing is ever accomplished by it and it only increases resentment.
 
yup... we've been working together for the past 10+ years and it causes no problems at all.... it's great, in fact.
 
radcen said:
Could you work with your spouse?

Some do, and it's just fine. Some, however, would have an issue with it. What category would you fall in?

Personally, I don't think I could. Not that I don't love my wife or enjoy spending time with her, because I do, but pretty much 24/7 is too much of a good thing.
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No Way. I can't even work with mine on a home project. You should have seen the two of us arguing under the sink the last time we installed a new one. As soon as she left, disgusted I wouldn't listen to her, I got the pipes connected, and the sink installed.
 
I absolutely could, but she could not work with me. I wouldn't allow it.
 
No spouse here but I doubt I could work with my girlfriend.

We are both a bit type A and its been hard enough for us to learn how to not constantly butt heads over minor details and small things. The only thing that seems to have gotten us past it is that we understand and anticipate each other very well.

Throw work into that situation, and while I think we would figure it out, it would take months of arguments that I would rather avoid.
 
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