Amazing advice.

You have no idea how much I love this. :lol:

I also really wish I came out in the form of song.

I've got a sneaking suspicion that your definition of "being in luck" and mine are pretty much opposite.:lol:

Honestly, the videos description matches that of a girl I'm supposed to be going on a date with later this week and now I'm just really concerned =/

Nilly said:

Honestly, the videos description matches that of a girl I'm supposed to be going on a date with later this week and now I'm just really concerned =/

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Just roll with it. One of the best kissers I ever dated was a lesbian who was experimenting. I knew something was up when I met her parents and they were really, really happy to meet me.:lamo

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I knew something was up when I met her parents and they were really, really happy to meet me.:lamo

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Always a red flag for me as well.

I like the part with: wearing the beanie during the summer. :lol:

Lutherf said:

I've got a sneaking suspicion that your definition of "being in luck" and mine are pretty much opposite.:lol:

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That's probably an accurate assumption. :lol:

Bob N said:

I like the part with: wearing the beanie during the summer. :lol:

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Yeah, I'm guilty. :lol:

Also, baseball tee's are awesome.

Have you officially come out to your family, YS? I remember reading you concerned your folks would not understand.

Your Star said:

Yeah, I'm guilty. :lol:

Also, baseball tee's are awesome.

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My young female tenant is gay. The first year here she was always sporting a baseball cap. She was away for most of this past summer and had no idea who was the girl walking up to her apartment door. I asked if she knew Rochelle and she said, "ahhhh it's me." It took a few for me to register that it was indeed her. Her hair was in a high, very feminine Audrey Hepburnish bun, and I didn't recognize her. We both had a good laugh.

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Have you officially come out to your family, YS? I remember reading you concerned your folks would not understand.

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****, I didn't make that thread already? Well, my bad. :lol:

So, I came out to my mom about a year and a half ago, and things went okay enough. Better than I feared, though I was less worried about her. Which is why I came out to her first. Then my sister, and then the domino effect just happened. Younger people so much more supportive, some people not shocked at all, some people completely shocked. The whole gambit of reactions, though no one upright disowned me. Which was nice. Some people aren't thrilled about it, but they know better than to say anything. Also, me and the GF at the time were getting pretty serious, and she wanted to have a more active role in my family life. People treat friends differently than they do significant others, you know. So, she came around for holidays and such, and that was really cool. There are a few people who still don't know. The older and less technologically inclined, and whom I don't see all that often anyways. But, most everyone knows, and it's so much better. Living in the closet sucks, and you don't know how bad it is and how much of a hindrance it is on your life until you step out of it. I feel kinda dumb for not coming out sooner, but you know, everyone has their own journey. I don't have to hide anything anymore and it is quite wonderful.

One of the better moments, and when I think my mom truly accepted me was when said GF and I broke up. I think all the religiousness and anti-LGBT bias she had went out the window when she saw that her kid was hurt, and her mom instincts kicked in. She told me that it was okay to feel hurt and be really sad for a while. That I wasn't weak for feeling these things so strongly, and that it was okay that it wasn't meant to be with Rachael because I would find my dream girl one day. That really meant a lot to me. Also she got me ice cream, which is the key component in the breakup recovery kit. :lol:

So yeah, there's an update for y'all! I can't believe how far I've come since I first joined this site. Life is definitely better. :mrgreen:

Oh, and I remember, I made the thread where I came out to my mom in the mod forum, not the general forum. That's why no one other than the mod squad knew. :lol:

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My young female tenant is gay. The first year here she was always sporting a baseball cap. She was away for most of this past summer and had no idea who was the girl walking up to her apartment door. I asked if she knew Rochelle and she said, "ahhhh it's me." It took a few for me to register that it was indeed her. Her hair was in a high, very feminine Audrey Hepburnish bun, and I didn't recognize her. We both had a good laugh.

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:lol: I love being soft butchy one day, and really really girly the next. 'Tis awesome!

Nilly said:

Honestly, the videos description matches that of a girl I'm supposed to be going on a date with later this week and now I'm just really concerned =/

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does she drive a subaru?
if so, your ****ed ... but not literally

Then again, she may be just one of these "guys":

Yay!!!! I am so happy for you! I have to say that I am elated you decided to step out. I have to admit that I was a tad worried because I have see the damage done when one withholds their true inner self. Plus, you have always struck me as someone who is forthcoming and honest. Must of just about ate you up at times, I bet. Anyway, I am so glad it all went well. Hugs.

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Yay!!!! I am so happy for you! I have to say that I am elated you decided to step out. I have to admit that I was a tad worried because I have see the damage done when one withholds their true inner self. Plus, you have always struck me as someone who is forthcoming and honest. Must of just about ate you up at times, I bet. Anyway, I am so glad it all went well. Hugs.

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Thanks, hon! And it really did eat up my soul, there. It came to a point where it was either coming out and getting this weight off of me, or having a complete nervous breakdown. The year leading up to my coming out I had panic attacks regularly(like every 3 weeks or so)and I just had random heart palpitations that would last nearly all day, for sometimes weeks on end. I was really a nervous wreck. It's hard for people to understand how crushing the closet really is. How never being able to be fully close to your family and the overall world just stifles you.

So yeah, glad I'm out of it. I can finally live and be the real me. Nothing better.

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Thanks, hon! And it really did eat up my soul, there. It came to a point where it was either coming out and getting this weight off of me, or having a complete nervous breakdown. The year leading up to my coming out I had panic attacks regularly(like every 3 weeks or so)and I just had random heart palpitations that would last nearly all day, for sometimes weeks on end. I was really a nervous wreck. It's hard for people to understand how crushing the closet really is. How never being able to be fully close to your family and the overall world just stifles you.

So yeah, glad I'm out of it. I can finally live and be the real me. Nothing better.

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And you are lucky that you seem to be accepted by your family. That makes a huge difference.