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Over the years, I've run across a lot of liars. I've seen enough of them to begin distinguishing one liar from another. Not all liars are bad people, and most liars have more differences between them than they share similarities.
The worst liars, IMO, are those who lie with malice aforethought. These are the liars who tell you they need to borrow your computer for a minute to email their sick child when, in fact, they are using your computer to perform an illegal transaction. He's the guy who says he needs to borrow $200 to pay rent but really wants it to go on a hot date with a woman half his age, whom he is also lying to by pretending he's a computer scientist or independently wealthy. These people are irredeemable, in my view.
Another liar is the drug addict. They lie like the people above, but more so to feed their addiction. These people are redeemable, especially once they get off drugs and/or alcohol.
A third liar is the "tell you what you want to hear guy." His lies are less calculating than simple reaction to avoid conflict or promote goodwill. These people tell you your bike will be ready tomorrow when, in fact, your bike won't be ready for another week. It's not that they are over-optimistic. It's just their pathology to tell you what you want hear.
There's the overly optimistic. Much like "tell you what you want to hear guy," they constantly push good news. The difference is, they actually believe their BS.
Another liar is the one who refuses to see reality. These are the people who still insist Iraq had WMD. Whether they believe it or not isn't even relevant. They simply deny any and all facts which interfere in their world view.
Lastly, or maybe not, there is the liar who is just wrong a lot. He's promise-guy who never comes through. These people cancel meetings at the last minute or are always running late for the lunch date. He's the friend whose word you just can't trust.
The worst liars, IMO, are those who lie with malice aforethought. These are the liars who tell you they need to borrow your computer for a minute to email their sick child when, in fact, they are using your computer to perform an illegal transaction. He's the guy who says he needs to borrow $200 to pay rent but really wants it to go on a hot date with a woman half his age, whom he is also lying to by pretending he's a computer scientist or independently wealthy. These people are irredeemable, in my view.
Another liar is the drug addict. They lie like the people above, but more so to feed their addiction. These people are redeemable, especially once they get off drugs and/or alcohol.
A third liar is the "tell you what you want to hear guy." His lies are less calculating than simple reaction to avoid conflict or promote goodwill. These people tell you your bike will be ready tomorrow when, in fact, your bike won't be ready for another week. It's not that they are over-optimistic. It's just their pathology to tell you what you want hear.
There's the overly optimistic. Much like "tell you what you want to hear guy," they constantly push good news. The difference is, they actually believe their BS.
Another liar is the one who refuses to see reality. These are the people who still insist Iraq had WMD. Whether they believe it or not isn't even relevant. They simply deny any and all facts which interfere in their world view.
Lastly, or maybe not, there is the liar who is just wrong a lot. He's promise-guy who never comes through. These people cancel meetings at the last minute or are always running late for the lunch date. He's the friend whose word you just can't trust.