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In my parenting methodology, spanking is typically reserved only for two matters:
1. Safety issues. Can't have children running out in the road.
2. Defiance. Parent must maintain control of the child, and cannot tolerate open defiance on serious behavioral issues.
Spanking associates a behavior with pain. Done correctly, the pain is temporary and does no lasting harm. The mental association of bad behavior with pain is a useful one that will stand them in good stead later in life, as they will have an instinctive understanding that crossing certain lines is likely to bring suffering down on themselves.
Some parents say their children are little angels who never need spanked and rarely ever disciplined.... well, good for you. Most of us are not so fortunate.
Some other rules:
Never in anger.
Always with control.
Should be rare.
Shouldn't be necessary much past age 8 or 9.
Generally unsuited to teenagers... other methods work better by then.
1. Safety issues. Can't have children running out in the road.
2. Defiance. Parent must maintain control of the child, and cannot tolerate open defiance on serious behavioral issues.
Spanking associates a behavior with pain. Done correctly, the pain is temporary and does no lasting harm. The mental association of bad behavior with pain is a useful one that will stand them in good stead later in life, as they will have an instinctive understanding that crossing certain lines is likely to bring suffering down on themselves.
Some parents say their children are little angels who never need spanked and rarely ever disciplined.... well, good for you. Most of us are not so fortunate.
Some other rules:
Never in anger.
Always with control.
Should be rare.
Shouldn't be necessary much past age 8 or 9.
Generally unsuited to teenagers... other methods work better by then.