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A question for the men of DP

Josie said:
I would rather he NOT go shopping with me. I'd drop him off at a sports bar or something for a few hours.
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i would like him to spend time with me whenever i need him ..
because i would try to be with him everytime when he wants me to do it
 
Josie said:
Do you consider yourself chivalrous in your relationship with your wife/girlfriend? What kinds of things do you like to do for her?
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The rainy season is upon us here in western Oregon. You wouldn't believe how much I have to spend on new coats so I always have a fresh one to toss on the puddles for the fair damsels trying to cross the street.
 
Gardener said:
The rainy season is upon us here in western Oregon. You wouldn't believe how much I have to spend on new coats so I always have a fresh one to toss on the puddles for the fair damsels trying to cross the street.
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I'd rather he sweep me up into his arms and carry me across the puddles. :2razz:
 
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Josie said:
Do you consider yourself chivalrous in your relationship with your wife/girlfriend? What kinds of things do you like to do for her?
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Never thought about it, what do you consider to be chivalrous?

If its holding doors and crap, nah.
 
Josie said:
I'd rather he sweep me up into his arms and carry me across the puddles. :2razz:
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I'm almost 60. My chiropractor and I already had the little talk.
 
Josie said:
I'd rather he sweep me up into his arms and carry me across the puddles. :2razz:
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Oh geez, thats overdoing it. I would rather a woman who can do basic things for herself.
 
ObamaIsAMarxist said:
when i get married and expect her be a christian woman should need to submit to the male feminizais have totally destoryed the family when the family is rejcted society collapses and thats why we have abortions and men having sex with other men and signle mothers on welfare society needs to stop giving women everything they want men need to be the head on the family again so we can make this nation chrisitan again
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ObamaIsAMarxist said:
sorry i always forgot sorry i think familys are under attack by feminisists they rebel against what god intended and thats men as the head of a family when you reject biblical truth you reject how things are supoosed to be and thats why we have so many problems
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Define feminists, and then tell me about the household that has no man in it. Good Lord. The Middle Ages called and is missing a village idiot.

Welcome to 2012.

Risky Thicket said:
Treating a woman like a lady is a good thing, but shopping ain't chivalry.
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I'm a woman and I detest shopping. I make a list, go get what I want and get the hell out. Surely not all women have a "thing" for recreational shopping. Bleh.

Paul Austin said:
I like to think Im a fairly progressive modern guy who likes to treat his property right.

I think Im very caring really, I mean for instance I talk to her.

For example when she bought some new shoes I asked her why she'd wasted so much money on them when shed still just look like a tramp anyway & after sex I sometimes turn to her and ask her to turn the light out, or to go make me a sandwich.

Ive held the door open for a few times, usually to let her back in when shes finally agreed to cook me a second supper, after I threw the first one at her for not cooking it fast enough.

& Im a thoughtful lover, I often think about other people when we're making love.

Oh & I let her talk in public sometimes, & you know what women are like, small brains, obsessed with shoes & shopping, so thats pretty generous of me too.

For some reason though Im single at the moment.
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I can't imagine why! ;) :lol:
 
megaprogman said:
Never thought about it, what do you consider to be chivalrous?

If its holding doors and crap, nah.
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Goshin summed it up well. Why wouldn't you do that for her? Does she not like it?
 
megaprogman said:
Oh geez, thats overdoing it. I would rather a woman who can do basic things for herself.
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That was tongue-in-cheek.... although, if he actually did do that, I'd probably melt into his arms.
 
megaprogman said:
Oh geez, thats overdoing it. I would rather a woman who can do basic things for herself.
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I actually agree. I don't believe in fairy tales. Maybe fractured fairy tales, but not the "happily ever after" kind.
 
X Factor said:
Atomic. Is that the same thing as the nuclear family? Is there some message to be taken from bombs being used to describe families?
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That 11 hours of studying in a single day isn't good for when talking about something other than law school.
 
TheGirlNextDoor said:
I actually agree. I don't believe in fairy tales. Maybe fractured fairy tales, but not the "happily ever after" kind.
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Well, if the guy sweeps me into his arms and then breaks his back, that'd be a fractured fairy tale. :2razz:
 
Josie said:
Well, if the guy sweeps me into his arms and then breaks his back, that'd be a fractured fairy tale. :2razz:
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It also means you would have to be ontop more. ;):2razz:
 
Josie said:
Goshin summed it up well. Why wouldn't you do that for her? Does she not like it?
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I assume this is the quote.

Goshin said:
I am a little old fashioned in that regard, yes. No surprise, I'm middle aged and I was raised by Depression-era/WW2 farmkid parents.

If I invite a lady out for an evening, I consider it my responsibility to see to it that she returns home safe and happy inasmuch as it is within my power to insure this happens.
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This is just good manners. So this is ok.

Goshin said:
I tend to do things like hold doors, offer to take her coat, wait until she is seated before taking my own seat, and so on.
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My wife would consider this quaint, unless her hands were full or something, I have offered this in the past and it just annoys her. :shrug:

Goshin said:
I don't order for her at dinner (that seems old fashioned even by my standards), but I typically indicate that she should order first if she wants, as a small courtesy.
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I don't see how this matters. My wife doesn't care

Goshin said:
I will usually pay for everything, unless she indicates a desire to pay half, which I will will usually reply something like "That isn't necessary, but you can if you wish to."

If there is to be a second date, then I might bring flowers or something. I don't usually do this on a first date, seems overly .... um.... overly something. :)
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I have honestly never been in this situation. I have had two major relationships in my life and both pretty much went from 0 to 60 within a week. For the first one, I got bored with her after about 18 months or so, we never got past sex, but she was all boobs and no brains anyway.

The second was my wife and we never really dated until after we got married and by then, our bank account was combined.

I don't know. I guess I prefer a woman who can hold her own in this world and bring some value to the table. Women are not objects to be handled lightly, lest they break, since most women like that are high maintenance anyway and that's no fun.
 
TheGirlNextDoor said:
I actually agree. I don't believe in fairy tales. Maybe fractured fairy tales, but not the "happily ever after" kind.
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Marriage, like everything else in life, is blood, sweat, and tears. Not that it isn't wonderful, but it takes effort and a sound mind far more than some emotional fantasy.
 
megaprogman said:
Marriage, like everything else in life, is blood, sweat, and tears. Not that it isn't wonderful, but it takes effort and a sound mind far more than some emotional fantasy.
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Yes, I know this. However, it takes two in a marriage to have that commitment and desire to make things work. Without a partnership, it's pointless.
 
megaprogman said:
I don't know. I guess I prefer a woman who can hold her own in this world and bring some value to the table. Women are not objects to be handled lightly, lest they break, since most women like that are high maintenance anyway and that's no fun.
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I find this to be a common misconception about being chivalrous. Helping a woman with her coat, holding a door for her, putting your hand on the small of her back when you're walking ... men don't do that because the women they're with need it or cannot do it on their own. Heck, I've lived most of my 32 years without a man. I don't need a man to do anything for me. But... I love it when they want to.
 
Josie said:
I find this to be a common misconception about being chivalrous. Helping a woman with her coat, holding a door for her, putting your hand on the small of her back when you're walking ... men don't do that because the women they're with need it or cannot do it on their own. Heck, I've lived most of my 32 years without a man. I don't need a man to do anything for me. But... I love it when they want to.
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So you WANT a man to treat you like a lesser being?
 
megaprogman said:
So you WANT a man to treat you like a lesser being?
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Why do you equate being considerate, loving, gentle and caring as treating someone like a lesser being?
 
Josie said:
Why do you equate being considerate, loving, gentle and caring as treating someone like a lesser being?
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Considerate, loving, gentle, and caring all means caring for one's feelings, needs, wants, etc. When my wife is down, I give her a hug, chocolate, alone time, sex, whatever I think best will lift her spirits (depends on why she is down). I celebrate her from time to time with something nice. I make sure to include her feelings, needs, and desires when I make decisions (I tend to be in charge of the marriage for some odd reason even though I never sought this authority, something I still have not figured out how this came to pass), etc. It does not mean I baby her. I don't lead her around, I don't pretend she needs me for protection, except in circumstances in which she does, stuff like that.
 
many men act gently until they make a woman believe in them

come as you are please

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