Thread: Fathers' Epic Response to Daughters Facebook Post

Originally Posted by Connery

Parenting is a 24/7 job and there is no room to be the child's friend or treat the child as an equal. Having a child is a right, raising a child is a privilege as far as I am concerned. Take all the sensationalized garbage away from this situation and what is left is the parent who has a responsibility to treat that child with care, love and guidance.

It' a responsibility - everything is a responsibility.

Fail to uphold your duties and see to your responsibilities and you've destroyed a human being.

Originally Posted by Dragonfly

First thought that came to mind was: "redneck"

"Exploding hollow point bullets"?????

Then I had to question, who acted more childish?

The daughter vented on FB.

The father vented on youtube, then posted to FB, then destroyed a working laptop all in a blatant attempt to teach his daughter some kind of lesson in what?

I'm guessing the "father" might be regretting that video in the near future.

Yep. I am hoping his crap redneck parenting skills backfire in his ugly control freak face If he had any real love in his heart for his daughter? He would have no desire to humilate her in front of the whole frigging world. He is a crap parent and it is no wonder his daughter has no respect for him. I do not blame her one little bit.

Originally Posted by Enola

She is a little brat whining on FB and got busted. My kids did chores. Sometimes I paid them, sometimes I didn't. Depended on if I could pay the rent that month or not.
The only thing I didn't like was him shooting the laptop. He should have sold it and kept the money for her rent. Ungrateful little witch.

And how does her dad respond? By acting like a bigger brat than his own kid! This guy is a dickhead

Originally Posted by Enola

Watch it again. The father is flustered. Stumbles over words like he is at a loss of what to say...and at the same time, totally peeveed at his kid, embarassed and most of all...HURT. Especially the part about when they get old and need someone to wipe their ass for them it won't be her. Those are cruel words and hearing him read it, I could feel his vibes even through the monitor.

Also note that he said this is not the first time she has done something similar. So she isn't very good at keeping her rants secret.

I think she is a spoiled little brat that thinks she's all that and Dad showed her friends she ISN'T all that after all. She will see it, guaranteed. She has friends, she has to go to school, there is a library where she can log on. So yes...she will be embarassed. Good.

The only thing that turned me off was him shooting the laptop. He could have sold it, or like someone else said, given it to a student that really needed one, etc.

But what I heard most of all in his voice as he read that print out was hurt and anger. Can't say I blame him. And I can also relate to what he said. You do and do and do for your kids and all you get is a knife in your back because most kids don't appreciate a damn thing these days. They have no clue what it's like to wear hand me downs, have to use pad and pen because they cannot afford a laptop, have to miss meals or even have a roof over their heads. This brat got what she deserved and I hope like hell she is totally embarassed and he makes good on his threat that "things will get worse". Ground her for a damn year, charge her rent. THEN maybe she will understand her piddly chores are nothing compared to the real world and what things cost to survive nowadays with mommy and daddy. Oh, and her insult about the "maid", too. Don't forget that.

In short...I don't blame him one bit.

Kids do not ask to be brought into this world and if a parent cannot provide things for them? Well maybe the adults having them should re-think bringing a child into this world if they cannot give them the things they need.

She may be a brat but who made her that way? Seems pretty clear to me and we all have a video to prove this girls problem: her asshole Daddy

Originally Posted by Kali

And how does her dad respond? By acting like a bigger brat than his own kid! This guy is a dickhead

Surprise! That is a part of being a parent.

Originally Posted by Kali

Kids do not ask to be brought into this world and if a parent cannot provide things for them? Well maybe the adults having them should re-think bringing a child into this world if they cannot give them the things they need.

Like anyone in this world can predict the future.

Originally Posted by Kali

She may be a brat but who made her that way? Seems pretty clear to me and we all have a video to prove this girls problem: her asshole Daddy

I agree. If you're too soft on kids they become brats. You don't make bratty kids by being stern and hard. You make bratty kids by being too soft. Looks like that's about to change for this little girl.

Originally Posted by Kal'Stang

......... If you're too soft on kids they become brats. You don't make bratty kids by being stern and hard. You make bratty kids by being too soft.........

Totally agree!

Originally Posted by Enola

Heck, some here are more upset about it than the kid herself!

Are we suppose to take Dads word on this whole thing? And the dog is the reason she got busted? Umm. Why am I not buying it. I think he is lying his ass off right now

Originally Posted by Kali

Are we suppose to take Dads word on this whole thing? And the dog is the reason she got busted? Umm. Why am I not buying it. I think he is lying his ass off right now

Why not take the dad's word? Do you know the guy personally enough to call him a liar?

As for the dog. It is not uncommon for people to make facebook pages specifically for a pet. Nor is it uncommon for a teenager to forget things nor think things through enough to remember to block a dog.

And really, there's nothing in anything that he has said that is not believeable. The only thing that is unusual about this whole case is that of the Dad posting what he did.

Originally Posted by Kal'Stang

Trust me. It does not lose effectiveness at all when the only time you can come out of your room is to do chores, go to the bathroom, and eat and you have nothing to do but read educational books that your parents got for you from the library.

Trust me. It loses it's effectiveness when that becomes normal.

Bold: The point (at least partly) was to humiliate yes. To show her what it felt like to be humiliated since that is exactly what she did to him.

No, she didn't. He found it accidentally. Her intent was to vent, not humiliate. HIS intent WAS to humiliate. Different situations.

It was also (again, at least partly) to "hurt" her in the same way that she hurt him. Sometimes a "tit-for-tat" type of punishment is a good thing, especially when it comes to emotions. It allows the kid to understand exactly what the parent means by saying "you hurt me" when refering to emotions. Sometimes there is a disconnect between the words and the actual feeling. Whether it is because the kid actually doesn't understand because they do not feel it themselves in that instance or because they simply don't believe that they actually hurt thier parent in that way. Now I am in no way saying that this should be used all the time. It should only be reserved for when you are at your wits end.

Actually, this is probably one of the most ineffective types of communication. If you are angry at someone and then do something to make them angry, their understanding is NOT what they did, but that YOU made them angry. It doesn't get your message across in any kind of effective or clear way at all. It just attacks, and that's how people take it. If you want someone to understand that you are angry and WHY, you tell them, clearly. Anything else clouds the message. Tit-for-tat is poor communication.

As for what you quoted on what I said that was mainly for defense purposes and not meant as a tit-for-tat type of thing. As I said "so that the world is not seeing just one side"

Defense of what?