parents smacking children

mikhail · 10-19-07, 02:50 PM

I put this in education.Is it ok for parents to smack children?

My feelings are if its done with a cool head and for a good reason its right.My dad was a very intimidating person as it was and would occasonally hit me if i did something really bad.He would also play fight with me all the time and would hurt me more doing that just because he was a big guy.

But anyway i often see children around and really think their parents should hit them as i mentioned before my super sweet sixtenth them girls need their mothers to give them a good hard slap round there face so much its unreal.

rivrrat · 10-19-07, 02:57 PM

I think it's certainly warranted and acceptable (and helpful) in certain situations. But not because you're just angry, and not because you're scared, and not because you're embarrassed at your child's behavior.

jallman · 10-19-07, 03:08 PM

Absolutely. Part of the problem we have today is that children are not taught consequences for their actions early on. A smack on the bottom at 4 or 5 keeps you from having to punch them in the mouth when they are 15 or 16.

ARealConservative · 10-19-07, 03:41 PM

a flick on the head - A spank on the rear? maybe.

But actually smacking a kid? No, I don't think that is effective.

WI Crippler · 10-19-07, 03:51 PM

You have to let the kid know you are willing to go exactly one step further than they are willing to go. Whether that be a stern talking to, or getting paddled with a boat oar as I did when I was a kid. It varies from kid to kid. They are little individuals too, not some kind of robot for which there is a universal solution.

Edify_Always_In_All_Ways · 10-19-07, 04:16 PM

Smacking children is just as "correct" as smacking your elderly parents, coworkers, patients (for doctors, psychiatrists, etc.). It could be a solution to many problems, but is easily abusable, and leads to further generations of parents who smack their kid for any reason, without thought, and the cycle of violence continues.

Many people will argue that it is fairly harmless, but there are other 'fairly harmless' options that won't teach kids that violence is an acceptable way to get what you want. Self-defense and defense of others is fine, though, if your child (or anyone else) poses a threat to them.

Simon W. Moon · 10-19-07, 04:24 PM

When we were kids, we used to beg for spankings. The alternative
was a lecture. A spanking ends relatively quickly. Lectures could take FOREVER - sometimes til it was dark outside and playtime was over. A spanking resolved itself quickly.

I think it can be "ok".
I doubt it's ever better than "ok".

Dragonfly · 10-19-07, 04:54 PM

Not sure if this is hijacking or not, sorry if it is....

What's the reaction to people saying:

"Well, my parents spanked me and look how I turned out.
I'm not a convict.
I'm not a spouse abuser, drug addict, alcoholic, or general all-purpose scumbag.
So spanking must not be the worst thing a parent can do."

SixStringHero · 10-19-07, 05:56 PM

I don't have kids, so I don't know if I should even be posting. With regards to the OP, I agree those Sweet Sixteenth b-day brats need the living **** beat out of them.

My parents would have killed me had I talked to them 1/10 as bad as those little ****s treat their parents, and in retrospect, I thank them for that.

jallman · 10-19-07, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by SixStringHero

I don't have kids, so I don't know if I should even be posting. With regards to the OP, I agree those Sweet Sixteenth b-day brats need the living **** beat out of them.

My parents would have killed me had I talked to them 1/10 as bad as those little ****s treat their parents, and in retrospect, I thank them for that.

If I had even dreamed of speaking to my father or mother like I see kids speak to their parents today, I would have been picking my teeth up off the floor. And you know what? I am glad it was like that because their discipline has led me to a successful life.