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Have You Ever Been Unjustifyably Hated By Someone?

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Has there ever been a person in your past or current that hates you and you have no ide why? If so, how did you deal with it?
 
Whether it's hate or envy, you have to accept that other people's opinions and feelings are out of your control and that there is no explaining some of life's mysteries.
 
At first I thought I didn't have anyone that ever actually hated me before...
but I actually remember someone now xD

It was one my sophomore year college roomates. He was very particular, and I wasn't the cleanest person on the planet, but I always kept my mess in my room. He had this strange Idea that I was taking food from him, or wasn't cleaning my dishes on time(I never had dishes in the sink longer than 24 hours at MOST). One time, I have this fruit drink before spring break. Coming back after spring break I saw the same fruit drink in my fridge... only I forgot I had actually finished my own. It was very specific, like a big V8 bottle with a specific flavor about half gone.... I thought it was mine.

I drank it all and left it in my room. He came furiously knocking on my door and started yelling at me with tears in his eyes saying I stole his drink...and he asked to come in my room and see. I explained to him that I had thought the drink was mine and I'd be happy to buy him another one. This situation just gave him the "proof" that all his suspicions before were completely justified. There was an occasion before this that he claimed I stole a coke from him... and I never did.
 
Has there ever been a person in your past or current that hates you and you have no ide why? If so, how did you deal with it?

Yeah. Goes hand-in-hand with having a notable presence in a community, which I have a couple of times.

It was a pretty rare occurrence, but it happened from time to time. I just tried my best to ignore it. I mean, what else is there to do? If someone is going to have such strong feelings about you for literally no reason, I don't see how anything you could do would accomplish anything other than giving you a headache. Best just walk away. And I never found that difficult.

Actually, I found the obsessively favourable people a lot harder to deal with. Those are the people who are creepy stalker types. But generally, I found people having extreme opinions about me when they didn't even know me to be a frustrating aspect of having a social presence. It just seems so irrational and needlessly dramatic.

...And this is why I don't do things that put me in the spotlight anymore. I'm just not built for that bull****. I will happily carry on being as anonymous as humanly possible, and if I ever do publish something major, I'll probably do it under a pseudonym so I can keep the craziness away from me. I have no idea why people go out intentionally seeking fame. It's an absolutely miserable way to go through life, in my opinion.
 
Whether it's hate or envy, you have to accept that other people's opinions and feelings are out of your control and that there is no explaining some of life's mysteries.

exactly! don't worry about things you cannot control

hopefully, i have never made an enemy who would hate me. but i do often find that i am targeted because of who i represent: a white man as a basketball referee

just two nights ago i encountered this - again. often, i am the only white person in the gym where adult basketball leagues are being played. had a fellow who did not appreciate me or my officiating. but rather than share the specifics with me, what he believed i failed to call, or whistles i called wrongly, he instead made two comments focused on my perceived race.
1. "why don't you go to your own neighborhood to call ball?" and
2. "i bet you are going to vote for tRump"

it was everything i could do not to laugh out loud at his last statement

i think of these situations every time a thread diverges into a discussion about blacks not being able to be racist
 
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Has there ever been a person in your past or current that hates you and you have no ide why? If so, how did you deal with it?

Oh I am sure there is at least one or two out there, I do not give it one second of thought since their issues are no concern of mine and hence has no effect on my life. Don't worry so much about how someone else sees you, if you are true unto yourself and try to be a good person you will be far happier and the fact of the matter is some people are just not going to like you. Do you like everyone you meet or are there times that you met someone and just take a disliking to them yet they have done nothing to you, and there ya go.
 
Has there ever been a person in your past or current that hates you and you have no ide why? If so, how did you deal with it?

In real life or on the internet?

I can't think of anyone in real life but I'll work on it. On the internet I'm pretty sure I'm covered.
 
Has there ever been a person in your past or current that hates you and you have no ide why? If so, how did you deal with it?

Does DP count?
 
Has there ever been a person in your past or current that hates you and you have no ide why? If so, how did you deal with it?

Yup. There's one guy who thinks I'm a bona fide, dyed in the wool Prince of Darkness. Truth is (at least so far as I can tell) we both suffered from a medical case of "not liking each other very much," and that was from fifteen years ago. Still, stories come in second and third hand, stories trickling in of how awful I am. He has this picture in his head of me that is just so cartoonishly villain-ish that I just resolved that there was no dealing with him. I even thought we buried the axe a couple times but he snapped back like a rubber band every time to "I hate Cardinal" mode. After the last incident I cut off all avenues of communication and that was that.

Then there are a couple women who also think I'm the Prince of Darkness, and uh, well...I'm afraid they kind of have a good argument for that position. That was from over twenty years ago and I wasn't very nice to them. Oh well.

And finally there's an ex girlfriend who I had kind of a bad falling out with, and apparently she believes that any bad behavior aside, I'm still an alright guy and we chat now and again amiably on Facebook.

As other people have said, ultimately you can't control how other people perceive you, only how you conduct yourself.
 
Has there ever been a person in your past or current that hates you and you have no ide why? If so, how did you deal with it?

Yes, but I know why. She has mental problems... seriously and literally.
 
Has there ever been a person in your past or current that hates you and you have no ide why? If so, how did you deal with it?

not in real life but in another forum yes, he would stalk me all over the forum and it wasn't modded well

I think he had serious mental issues, he did it to many people over the years and it always started when a person wouldn't back down from him, he would mock them with every post they made, he had zero impulse control so when people ignored him it upset him to no end

:shrug: many feared him and he seemed to enjoy that
 
My second roommate in college hated me near the end of the semester because he thought me and his girlfriend were sleeping together. The truth was, we were just friends as I had basically met her at the same time that he did. He just couldn't accept the fact that someone might want to break up with him. It was really awkward until the semester was over.
 
Has there ever been a person in your past or current that hates you and you have no ide why? If so, how did you deal with it?

Yes, and I did not let their insecurity about me bother me. People that hate for no known reason are in fact threatened by you. What that threat may be you may never know, but their hate is an admittance that you best them in some way.
 
The US government seems to hate me.

I just got a bill from the IRS for $753 from my 2014 return. Every couple of years they send me a bill for some random amount of money. I'm starting to think they don't appreciate me.
 
Haters gonna hate. Let them do their job.

I agree. Over the years Ive come to realize that there will be people who will hate you no matter what you do. In the end I think its best to be yourself and hang out with the people who accept you for what you are.
 
My best friend's girlfriend in high school --- she thought I was trying to steal him from her. Oh, and a parent of a student I had a few years ago. She's psychotic.
 
I don't know it goes as far as hating, but I've several times sensed that someone I worked with, was in school with, had gone out with, and so on disliked or resented me for no reason I could see, or that the person ever expressed. Each time, I tried, as much as possible, just not to think about it and to minimize the contact as much as I could.

Looking back, I think each time the person really did not know or understand me, but instead, for whatever reason, formed some distorted belief about me. A reminder to us not to assume too much about a person from the way they look or speak or dress--people are often very different, once you get to know them, from what you at first imagined them to be.
 
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